A New Type of Planner

I love planning everything from weddings to my daily life. It is fun and exciting. All my friends know when we go on a trip. I am a planner. I can set up car rentals to hotels and everything in between. I planned every detail of my first wedding, from the budget to the name tags on the table. This is a new type of planner that can help you find your inner superwoman. It is a self-love guide.

How do I do it?

I use a daily planner. First, I write a list of things I need to do. Then I put them on the days they need to be done and cross them out as I complete them. I read and evaluate my planner every day. I add things when needed and I complete things every day that I have something to complete.

What does this do?

This allows you to make sure that you get things done when they need to be done. It keeps you from procrastinating because you schedule out when you need things done. For example, if I know that I have a meeting on Wednesday during my planning time, I can change the planning time for a day earlier. I am able to see things that I have in a week or a month. It is a great way to stay on top of things. You can find self-love in this as well.

Why I created this planner?

I am all about helping people learning how to become their inner superwoman (or superman). That is why I have the blog. A few months ago, I was thinking of ways that I could better provide information and activities for you to become your higher self. From that, came the planner.

I wanted to give you information and activities that I do on a daily basis or often. In the last 7 years, I have gained myself and became more independent and strong. All the activities I put in the planner are things I have done and learned from.

How to use the planner

First, decide how you want to create a planner. Since it is a PDF you can print the pages you want when you want them. To get the most out of the planner, I recommend sending the PDF to office depot or someplace similar and have it made into a book.

Second, write all your daily activities, events, and things to do in the planner. Look ahead in the planner and plan out some of the activities you need to do ahead of time.

Third, get to work. Do the activities, feel yourself, and answer the questions. It is a year-long process so take your time and give yourself love throughout the year. Allow yourself to feel and be with the emotions and feelings that arise. Even if it gets difficult, KEEP GOING!

Fourth, repeat the second step daily or weekly.

Lastly, tell me what you think. Either leave a comment or contact me. I would love to know what you think and how the planner is working for you. If there are things I can do to make it better, I want to know.

My wish

I wish that you find yourself in some way big or small during the year. I have had great success learning about myself with the activities, I want the same for you. FIND YOUR INNER SUPERWOMAN (or SUPERMAN).

Get your copy now! The FINDING YOUR INNER SUPERWOMAN planner is 50% off until August 1, 2019.

SELF-LOVE is the way to find the universe because the universe is within you

sunset on the beach. two chairs facing the beach.

The Stray: The Movie

I was watching a movie called “The Stray” on Netflix this evening. The movie is a true story. It’s about a stray dog that found the Davis Family. The Davis Family is a family of five, three kids and two parents. They had some struggles during their time in California. The boy had trouble with bullies. The parent’s marriage was on the edge. The dad worked day and night. This stray dog, named Pluto, came into their lives one random day. 

He was there to protect them in many ways. He helped the little boy with his bullying. The youngest of the family got lost in town, Pluto found her. Which led to them moving to Colorado, where they lead a different life. 

The father no longer worked day and night, but the family still struggled. The boy was angry with his dad for not being there for him in California. 

The father, boy, two friends, and Pluto went on a camping trip where they got struck by lightning. Pluto took the brunt of the power from the strike. The dad had trouble moving his limbs and blood from his ears and the boys were just knocked out for a short time. Pluto didn’t make it.

Pluto was a lifesaver.

The universe knows best. 

I am a strong believer the universe knows what’s best. As I watched the movie, I thought the dog came into their lives for a reason. I realized in the end, it was to protect the family from losing a father. Without Pluto taking the majority of the force, the father would not have survived and the boys would have been stuck in the wilderness alone. 

Back in 1991, cell phones were not prevalent or possibly non-existent. I couldn’t imagine what would have happened to the boys. 

The universe knew something was going to happen that night. The family debated whether Pluto should go or stay home. He went. And for a good reason that no one knew about. 

This happens to us all.

When we trust in the universe, it gives us what we need, in the moment, to grow and be our better selves. I can show you many examples in my life where the universe made things happen. If you told me about your life, I could tell you exactly where the universe was and why it was there. 

Seriously…

I am not kidding…

Things happen for a reason

Nina came into my life and changed it completely. I wouldn’t have quit my job at Educarte if it wasn’t for her. She came into my life and all I wanted to do was make sure she had the best. That meant being home more often to play with her and love on her. 

Not only do I support her, but she also supports me. She reminds me to love myself. Nina shows me the times I need space or the times I need exercise. Nina is an eye-opener for me. I know that I am capable of many things.

Nina showing up on my doorstep. The electricity bill was outrageous so I had to move. Quitting my job to move to Costa Rica. Starting this blog. 

All of it happened for a reason. 

This blog started off as a no big deal, share my adventures with my family type deal. I never thought weidergabe would be what it is today. It’s not a huge success and it’s not making me any money, but it does have readers from all over the world. Weidergabe has inspired people to live their best life. To follow their dreams and to make a difference in the world. 

I never would have imagined two years ago weidergabe being where it is today. I have visions and ideas to take this blog someplace amazing. 

GO after your dreams!

The universe has your back. It knows what you need to listen to your heart. Find yourself and dig deep within to be present to what the universe wants for you.

No dreams are too big. No dreams are too small. It is possible even if you have no money or you have no idea what you’re doing. Find a way and make it happen. 

Let the big things come into your life even if they seem scary. Embrace the little things and remember they are there for you from the universe. 

SELF-LOVE is the way to find the universe because the universe is within you.

The Revolving Boyfriend

I was having a conversation with a friend the other day. She lives in Peru and is having a hard time because everyone is in love and she is “alone”. She has a fear that she will never find that one person. I understand her fear because it is something that has come across my mind many times. 

She and I are both in our 30s. Most people we know are married and have a family already. Everywhere you look there are people, movies, and commercials telling you that you need to fulfill certain things to be considered successful in life. 

Over the last few years, I have come to terms with not getting married or finding that perfect person that I would spend my life with. It wasn’t easy to do because of so many people saying “you need kids, you need to be married, and you need a family of your own.” 

I mean there are coaches that help you find the love of your life that make millions of dollars finding people that special someone. For me, I want to help people find themselves and be whatever they are supposed to be. I think the world would be a better place if we focused on finding self-love instead of finding someone to love us. 

The Revolving Boyfriends

As I was figuring out myself, I coined the term “the revolving boyfriends”. It is when your life’s purpose is to better society and making a difference one boyfriend at a time. As women, we are life. We grow and create new life within our bodies to have babies. Why can’t we change the world by creating a different kind of life within our womb? 

Men don’t have a womb to create life, as women can. We create life then inspire the change through the men. So, if I am stuck with one man my entire life how can I make an impact on society like I am supposed to? your probably thinking of having guy friends, which is possible. But… sometimes you don’t get the intimacy you need by being “just friends”. So this brings me to… Well, revolving boyfriends!

A revolving boyfriend could be in my life (or yours) for a short time or a long time. It depends on what you and the man need to learn from the relationship. If you learn quickly then it may be a short relationship. It could be longer if there is deeper work to be done. 

It doesn’t mean you are less worthy

Just because you have revolving boyfriends doesn’t mean that you less of a woman. It doesn’t mean you are not special or worthy of love. It means you have a higher power that will change the world and make a difference in the lives of every man (or woman) you date. It doesn’t mean that you aren’t good enough or stable enough for that one love. It means you are worth more than just ONE LOVE! You have so much love you can spread it out and make a bigger impact on the world.

It doesn’t mean you are meant to fix them. We aren’t here to fix men (or women), we are here to grow more aware and conscious within ourselves. We are here to experience life in a new way. A way that isn’t told to us by society or commercials.

The world may say that you need that perfect man to be whole. I promise you there are more ways to feel whole than having the perfect man, marriage, or baby. Personally, I know this is true because I feel whole with or without a man. I live my best life and I live it with integrity, faith, and love. You can feel whole within yourself by being your real self. Feeling whole can come from volunteering or learning to love unconditionally. It can come from loving yourself so much that you follow your dreams even if they aren’t what society tells you is correct.

To change the world, we need to change the way we see the world.

The world is broken. It is full of greed, hate, fear, and anger. That is why we have so many wars and devastation. If you want to see the world be full of faith, love, and integrity, then we need to change the way we live it. 

This starts with seeing marriage, babies, and ourselves differently. That is why I am creating content that focuses on self-love and testing the boundaries with the way I live. 

We will all suffer if we chase after things that are not meant for us. I am not meant for getting married or having a child. I am meant for something BIGGER and more GRAND

It is okay if no one understands this except you. There are others out there like me and my friend that meant for the life of revolving boyfriends and manifesting a new way of living. 

Don’t be afraid… EMBRACE IT!

My Recent Move

I am in my happy place! The other day I briefly wrote about having to move because of the electricity situation with my landlord. It was a very quick and fast move. It was all done within 3-4 days. 

Sunday, I saw the apartment. Monday, my landlord asked me to pay him $180 more for electricity. Tuesday, I met the new landlord and paid part of the deposit. Thursday, I moved in. 

I was worried about money because I basically paid rent twice this month. I was nervous because moving can be costly as well. This place isn’t fully furnished liked my last 2 places. I realize I can do without some of those things. I can “toast” my bread in a pan instead of a toaster. I can borrow a blender from my neighbor for a while instead of buying my own for smoothies. It will all work out just fine. And it has so far. 

Have Faith

When you take a risk, faith is all you need. If it is the right decision the universe will give you what you need. Have faith that the universe is on your side. There are so many beautiful things that can come from change. Sometimes change brings sadness or pain which is okay too. There is something to learn from it all so have faith.

I have lived by faith for as long as I can remember. It has never failed me. Even in my darkest times, I had the faith and perseverance to overcome the situations. I am a better, stronger, and more loving person because of the faith I have. It gives me hope. I always believed there was something better awaiting me at the end of the tunnel. I always knew that life is worth living to the fullest. 

Some people have faith in God. Some people have faith in the universe. It really doesn’t matter who you have faith in, just have faith that there is something higher than you looking out for you. 

Thoughts

Thoughts are powerful. I had been thinking about moving for the last few weeks before this all took place. I thought that I needed to be closer to the beach so I could take pictures for the blog or I could go whenever I wanted, not having to worry about a ride. I thought I could find a place that was cool and tranquil. My last place was good for where I had been the last 6 months, however, times have changed.

Those thoughts I had constantly put the energy out into the universe. I was able to manifest my thoughts into reality. That’s how things happen. You manifest what you think. I had faith that I would find the perfect apartment when the time was right. I knew I would be where I needed to be when I needed to be there. Faith and manifesting allowed the universe to see the potential I had. 

I am in a different place now because I quit at Educarte. I took control of my time and my life. All of this change lead me to the right place to live. 

My Apartment

My apartment is in the town of Brasilito, but not too close to the center. I have peace and space. I upgraded to a two-bedroom apartment with outdoor space in the back for Nina. There is a hotel next door that allows me to use the pool if eat at the restaurant. The beach is a 2-minute walk from my front door. I have many windows for airflow and trees to block the sun so it stays cool. My kitchen is the perfect size for me. The living room has plenty of seating if I have friends come to visit. Nina has plenty of space to run in the front as well as at the beach. (We have gone to the beach every day since we moved.) 

My new apartment. There’s work to be done with the organization.

The Community

When I lived here before, I knew everyone in town and everyone knew me. I felt a sense of community because I had so many contacts and locals who I could talk to and visit. When I moved to Huacas I lost all of that because I didn’t come to Brasilito often and the community isn’t as tight in Huacas. 

I can now build the sense of community I had before. And this time it is better because my Spanish is so much better. There is so much opportunity here for me emotionally, physically, and spiritually. 

Keep Faith and Manifest Your Thoughts

All things are possible. I am living proof. Have faith in something higher. Keep your thoughts pure so you can manifest them in your favor. Don’t give up. There is always something better. Always something that will surprise you. Life is what you make it. So make it a good life!

When life gets you down, what do you do?

Give up, feel pitty? 

NO WAY! I keep fighting and I keep trying even if I get knocked down.

The last few months have been tough. I know you guys don’t know everything, but switching jobs has been tough. I haven’t been making the money I need to make to survive. I am making it happen because of some support from friends and family. 

I know my worth and won’t settle for less when it comes to which company I work for to teach English. I love teaching with Open English because I always have classes when I work. The problem is they don’t pay much. I also work for VIPKid, but it has been slow to gain students. I have been looking for other companies like VIPKid, but haven’t found the perfect one. 

Am I letting this stop me from living my best life? 

HELL NO!! I am doing everything I can to make it work. I am unstoppable. I’m not letting this stop me. I am fighting and I am so pumped for what happens in the future. I know my life is getting better because the struggle is real.

I have been interviewing with as many companies to find the perfect one. I also scored a job with an amazing girl here in Costa Rica. I’m helping her with her blog and learning along the way. I took over managing a facebook group which has been an amazing experience. Even though I am not making money I am gaining so much self-confidence and experience that it is well worth it! 

The Universe knows all!

In the last few weeks, I have been thinking about moving. I live farther from the beach so I don’t take as many photos of the sunsets for the blog. I don’t have as many beautiful places in my house to showcase for my blog. I miss the beach. I miss the town of Brasilito. I knew everyone and everyone knew me. At my place now, I don’t know anyone. It’s not a community. Even though I am an introvert, I can learn so much from being around people. I miss the connection I had in my old town.

Yesterday, it all started. I went to a swap meet for the facebook group I now run. I ran into a lady who lives in Brasilito. Her apartment complex has some openings. It would be 2 minutes from the beach, a hotel with a pool I can use 100 meters away, and it has plenty of space for Nina to run. I went to check out her place and fell in love. The only problem is she doesn’t allow pets.

Today, my landlord tells me I owe him $180 for electricity. I already pay him $60 so it’s so much more. I can’t afford that. And IT IS OUTRAGEOUS!! In my old apartment, I never paid over $100 for electricity and the room was smaller. I am feeling like it is all happening because it’s meant to be for me to move. 

The only thing standing in the way is the apartment I want may not let me live there because of Nina. I am going to talk to her tomorrow, hopefully, I can convince her to let us move in. If it doesn’t happen, I know the universe has a plan.

“Love is everything”

As I sit here typing, I am watching soul surfer. It is the story of Bethany Hamilton. The girl who lost her arm to a shark attack while surfing. She beat all odds to get back out there to surf. She hit some big waves, and she overcame them all. 

In the movie, she said love and compassion were what helped her through. While she was in Thailand helping the people recover after the massive tsunami, she realized that it’s not about surfing, it’s about love. She allowed herself to love herself again even though she wasn’t “whole”.

She inspired so many people with her attempt to get back out on the waves. She lost and she got beat down, but she tried. It is all about love and trying. In the movie, Bethany stated that she would never change what happened to her because she has more love now than she ever could with two arms. 

The more you overcome your difficulties, the more love you have for yourself. You see how strong you are and you see what you are capable of accomplishing. 

Change isn’t easy, but it’s worth it.

I am scared about moving houses. I also know that moving houses is the best thing for me and my career. In the last month, I have conquered so many fears. I am staying calm and looking forward to the future. I have realized that even though I am an empath and an introvert, I can have the relationships I desire to have. 

Change is hard, and it is what can bring you a life-changing event. So, what are you afraid to do because you think you’re not good enough or capable enough? I can tell you from experience that none of that is true. You are GOOD ENOUGH and CAPABLE ENOUGH to have whatever you want in life. You have to work for it. You have to feel uncomfortable and do what no one else would do. 

I promise a short time of being uncomfortable will change your entire future. Feeling uncomfortable is temporary if you learn, grow, fight, and never give up. 

Go after your dreams. Make a statement. Live your best life. Be free!

Dogs are Family

A girl with a puppy on her lap.

I have had dogs in the past. My family and I always had a dog growing up. We had different dogs at different times. 

During my elementary years, the ones I remember the most were the black lab that ran like crazy. And a small, black mixed dog that pooped in the house all the time. 

During high school years, we had wired-haired fox terriers. They were not my favorite dogs. 

In college, I was a dog walker/sitter. I had some great dogs that I liked and some dogs that I wanted to never watch again. 

I love dogs. They are so much more fun than cats. They all have had a personality that varied from dog to dog. I couldn’t be around the dogs for more than a few days. I got annoyed with them for one reason or another.

I never felt a deep connection to dogs. 

I am not sure what the problem was. Even last year when I fostered the dog for a few weeks, I was ready to give him back after a week or so. The energy or something just felt off to me. My house felt strange and the dog seemed super needy. 

I felt the dogs weren’t mine. I didn’t feel connected to them, none of them. Even as a child. I was hesitant when I got Nina because I didn’t want to take her in and get tired of her like I did the other dogs I’ve had in my life.

When I got Nina…

The night I got Nina, I also had her brother. They were both incredibly different. Nina’s brother was full of fleas and was whining and crying the whole night. He was scratching and so uncomfortable. Nina didn’t have as many fleas, but she did have dehydration, a skin problem, and worms. Nina just snuggled up to Jonathan and slept the entire night. 

I just knew that Nina was the one. I wasn’t sure if I would get tired of her, however, I knew between the two puppies Nina was the one for me. 

She has been the light of my life. I can’t imagine my life without her. Nina makes me laugh and is so well behaved. I took the time to train her right. With her still being a puppy, she has some things to learn. However, she is like me in a lot of ways. 

We have the same energy. 

I feel connected to Nina because we have the same energy. She is full of life and knows when I need something. If I need space she calms down and just sits with me. If I need to get moving, she gets excited and we play fetch outside. 

She loves everyone and greets everyone with a smile. On the other hand, she does notice people’s energy and barks at people who she feels aren’t a good person. Seriously, there is a vet down the street that she barks at every single time she sees him. He is the only vet she does that too. She absolutely hates going to the vet, but she never barks at the vet. This one (who we have never used) she won’t even go near them. 

This is the same for me. I can feel people’s energies and don’t want to go around certain people because of how they “feel” to me. I don’t like the vet Nina doesn’t like because of his energy, so I understand why Nina doesn’t want to go near him either. 

A girl with a puppy on her lap.

I couldn’t imagine my life without her

She has made my life better in so many ways. I have learned to love myself and listen to my self more than I did before. She has helped me think positive and motivate me to get my work done. Part of the reason I left my steady teaching job was so I could be home with her. Nina is much better when I am here with her. Even if she is in her crate while I am working, I can let her out and give her attention more than I could before.

I want to be able to take her to this amazing dog training lady about an hour away. I am working towards getting a higher paid job so that I can afford to take her. She would love the place. There is a gym that could hone in on her monkey-like skills. 

Nina is like a child in the sense that she pushes me to be a better me. I am happy she is in my life. I want her to explore the world and see what she is capable of. She is family.

The little girl downstairs calls me “la mama de Nina” which translates to Nina’s mommy. I am Nina’s mom and she is my puppy daughter.

How has your puppy or animal changed your life? What have you learned from being a puppy mom?

The Secret to Loving Yourself

I’ve been talking about loving yourself for a while now. It IS what weidergabe is about.  So, you probably wondering how to do that. While your relationship with yourself is the most important connection in your life, it’s easy to forget about nurturing it.

However, self-love and compassion are too important to neglect because they shape your experiences and relationships with others.

You can do this in a loving and caring way. It may not be easy, but it will be worth it.

Changing the Way You Think about Yourself

Maybe you’re hard on yourself or you’re so busy with external obligations that you rarely consider your personal priorities. Look within yourself to find the inner superwoman (or superman) within you!

These strategies will help you to think more highly of yourself:

  1. Accept yourself. Know that you are worthy of love and respect just the way you are this moment. Embrace yourself with all your strengths and weaknesses.

  2. Define your inner purpose. Invent your own definition of success. Ask yourself what a meaningful life means to you, even if that answer changes over time.

  3. Watch how you talk to yourself. How do you speak to yourself? Choose words that are encouraging and uplifting. Use your internal dialogue to build your confidence and manage your emotions.

  4. Forgive. Let go of the past so that you can move on. Learn from your mistakes. Take time to allow yourself to do something different in the future.  We wouldn’t be able to move forward without forgiving. And REMEMBER, forgiveness is for you, and only you.
  5. Avoid comparisons. Social media can make this hard. I know I struggle with it regularly. Compete with yourself. Try to do better than you did yesterday. You’ll accomplish more if you dare to be yourself.
  6. Think positive. Looking on the bright side and being able to laugh at yourself makes you even more loveable. It also helps you to manage stress and deal with difficult circumstances.

Changing the Way You Treat Yourself

Do your actions match your beliefs? You might say you love yourself, but your actions could be sending a different message.

Try these techniques to treat yourself kindlier:

  1. Practice self-care. Develop habits that keep your mind and body fit and strong. Go to bed early and exercise each day. Eat a balanced diet and watch your weight.
  2. Pick friends wisely. Surround yourself with family and friends who encourage and support you. Cultivate close relationships with others who share your goals. Engage in deep conversations where you can share your feelings and receive validation.
  3. Pursue your passions. Identify the activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Block out time each day for something you love, whether it’s a task related to your job or something you do in your leisure time.
  4. Set goals. Give yourself something to strive for. Working towards realistic and challenging goals builds your confidence as you add to your achievements.
  5. Maintain boundaries. Know your limits so you can define what behavior you consider acceptable. That may include physical boundaries such as needing your own space and psychological boundaries such as being entitled to your own feelings and opinions.

Advocate for yourself. Once you understand your needs, you can communicate them to others. You’ll grow more skillful as you practice being direct and tactful in letting someone know if they cross your boundaries.

Making Decisions: Right or Wrong or Perfect?

As you all know I quit my steady income-producing job at the local school a few weeks ago. I switched to working online so that I could have a more flexible schedule. I am happy that I made the decision because I have freedom for myself. I wrote about it in a past article you can read here

I have been sad about the change. There are things I miss about working in a school. The first few weeks of school are so fun. Getting to know the students, decorating the classroom, meeting new teachers, and high energy of the beginning of school will all be missed. Have you ever made a decision that you felt sad about? 

There is a difference between regret and feeling sad. 

Feelings of regret and second-guessing yourself are a different feeling than feeling sad. When you regret something, you are sorry you made the choice you made. I do not feel sorry for making the choice. I am happy that I made the choice. My life is in my control now. 

Sometimes when we make a life-changing decision, we lose things that we love to do. I loved decorating my classroom and seeing my students faces on the first day of school. I don’t regret my decision at all. However, I am mourning the loss of something I love to do. I feel sad that I won’t be able to do that this year. 

So how do you know you made the right decision if you are feeling down?

Things start falling in place. 

You start attracting things in your life that are part of your higher plan. People are asking you to be apart of their lives. People who you never thought would be there for you are. You start learning about yourself in ways you never knew. 

For me, I have received some invitations to jobs or events that I would have turned down in the past for fear or not enough time. I am making plans that I’ve always wanted to make. I am able to attend my sister’s wedding in the future and hopefully see my dad’s new house and my mom’s new puppy. 

Change can bring struggle.

Sometimes it may not feel all happy and cheerful because you are finding new things about yourself that you didn’t know. With change comes the unknown. In that unknown, new things come up that you may have to deal with.

This change has made me realize how much of an issue I have with money.  I am not talking about debt or gambling or anything like that. I realize I don’t feel like I deserve to have money. I have fears that money will turn me into a stuck up person that doesn’t care about others issues. I don’t want to become the person that only wants the next best thing and forgets about volunteering and giving back.

As I was growing up, I learned things about money because of how my parents are with money. The things I learned were money is no good. Money makes people lie and causes unneeded stress and anxiety. Which is true to a certain extent. There are people where this happens. Having a lot of money (or having no money) causes them to be a different person.  

Both are perfect

The universe wants us to stay true to our life paths. If we do what we need to get to the next level or get one step closer with our plan, the universe provides. It provides friends, family, and situations that we need to stay positive and strong. It also provides the fear and struggles to help us find our true self. We have to let go of what we think we are to really live who we really are. That is part of living your best life. 

There is always the good and the ugly to help us see the truth. They are both needed and perfect. Remember, life is good. Life is beautiful in all its guts and glory. Let it flow and breathe. Relax into the unknown. Let the unknown drive you to find the real you. I promise the real you is more beautiful and amazing than you could ever imagine. 

Superwoman (or superman) is extraordinary. Be Superwoman (or superman) and manifest your best life!

Take Care of Yourself First

Don’t be afraid of what could happen if you lose someone or quit a job. If you need to do something to better your health in any way do it without hesitation. You will thank yourself for it later. I promise. 

Staying in a situation you know is unhealthy for you will only make your life harder. It will keep you from living your best life. Change is good. Even if you are afraid to death that you won’t be able to pay your bills or have to move in with your parents, it is okay. The universe will reward you for taking the leap and protecting yourself. 

I have left situations that I thought I would never be able to live after I did it. The universe rewarded me with something better. I gained valuable knowledge that made me a much better person. It may not be better forever because we do change and shift as we learn and grow. As we shift and grow, different obstacles and situations appear to help us see some things more clearly.

There are signs all around you telling you what you need to do.

These signs can come in the form of a dream or anxiety. Dreams can tell us a lot about what our subconscious is trying to tell us. Recently, I have been having dreams about my ex-fiance. I thought it was trying to tell me that I made a mistake. In the end, I realized it was telling me I was doing the same thing. I was holding on to fear. The same fear I had right before I left him, I am dealing with now. 

Anxiety can keep us awake at night. We can sleep all day and be unmotivated to do the things we love to do when we are anxious. Look at those signs. Look at when we feel that way, it can tell you want you to need to do. Fighting it will only make it worse. Just let it be and move forward. Listen to it. 

It isn’t easy making a change. We think we need something because if we don’t have it we can’t live. But what if we let go of that fear and anxiety and we LIVE better than we did before?

Never second guess yourself.

I have no doubts in my life because I don’t second guess myself. When my life needs something I go after it with full force and I learn everything I can from it. Fighting through the thoughts and manifesting a new way of living. 

When we second guess ourselves, we begin to lose self-love. We suffer from not trusting ourselves. You trusted yourself to make the decision in the first place, whatever it was, know that it was meant for you or you wouldn’t have done it. You know deep inside what you need. Believe in yourself ALWAYS!

If you made a decision and it turned out to be a not so good one, learn from it. Then, get in touch with your heart and soul to manifest a better one. There is never a wrong answer, we can always learn from it. I find learning from negative situations is the best way to live. It allows you to still love yourself and never creates distrust within yourself.

It’s all about self-love

It really is all about self-love. Making sure that you come first and you love yourself no matter what happens. The universe will reward you for being courageous and strong. Even if you feel weak or you feel like you failed, just know that change is good. It can make you or break you. You can love yourself and say “I did my best. I did something scary and no matter what happens, I will always have myself.” Or you can say “This life is shit. I failed and I can never have the life I want. I give up.” 

One will create self-pity. That’s not a happy way to live. I have been there. I have felt so sorry for myself and my life that I didn’t take responsibility for it. I am the only one responsible for my life. Yes, unexpected things happen that we cannot control. Some may grow up in a minority situation that makes it that much harder for us to achieve our goals. Not everyone has the same opportunities because of skin color, social class, or sex. 

It is easier for a white person than it is for a person of color. Men have more rights and opportunities than women. And People from the upper class have more resources. It does matter. And the only thing we can do is fight for the same rights. There is no reason to feel pity for ourselves for not having the same rights as others.

Tell yourself that you are doing the best you can. You will make a difference in this life. It may take a lot of work and determination. It may not be easy and you will run into problems. Keep pushing forward because the work you do now will create a path for those in the future. LOVE YOURSELF WITH ALL YOUR SOUL!

Change starts with you.

When you make a brave change it does affect others. Others will be inspired by you and want to do the same. You will change the world one person at a time by loving yourself. 

I can tell you from experience you change more people’s lives with courage than you do with self-pity. Courage makes the world a better place. It creates a ripple that will change the course of history in the lives of people around you.

I don’t have many followers and I am not the best writer. I am inspiring people with my writing and my life. Many friends have told me how much I’ve changed their lives. You can do it too. Self-love is for you and the world. 

Live your BEST LIFE.

What I learned from the movie A Wrinkle in Time

Life is tough. It is extremely difficult sometimes. The universe is full of darkness. The things that cause us pain, suffering, and deceit. The darkness is where wars are started. Darkness tears people part and kills the dreams and light we have inside. 

Even when life is beautiful and magnificent, it is hard to be with sometimes. The darkness overrides the joy and happiness we have inside. I know this may seem depressing and negative. It is the truth. 

I told you I started volunteering for a non-profit that teaches English to refugees. I knew about the war between the Israelis and the Palestinians. I have known about that for a while. A dear friend named Becky showed me about that war along time ago. She was passionate about it and wanted to help show the world that the Palestinians needed their land and their freedom. I hope she is still passionate about it today. 

On Netflix, I was watching documentaries about the war in Syria. I wanted to understand in more depth what my student would and is currently facing. It was very hard to watch. The stuff that is happening over there in Syria and Gaza is terrifying, horrific, and maddening. 

So you are all probably wondering why I bring this negativity to such a positive blog and how it has to do with the movie, A Wrinkle in Time.

Well, keep reading.

Why do we have to be in Pain?

We will be in pain until we become one with the universe and ourselves. When we want to be someone we aren’t that creates a distance within us causing hurt. We are all put on this universe for something bigger. Something GRAND! 

We have facebook, Instagram, snap chat, and so many other social media sites that don’t give us the truth. You see the “happy” side to everyone. You don’t see the pain, sadness, or struggle they really deal with. Who wants to see the pain in others? 

I like to see the pain others go through because it shows me what is real. When I write, I tell you the happy parts and I also try to convey the sadness and struggle within me. That is being real. No one’s life is as perfect as it is on social media. 

Many people tell me I want an amazing boyfriend like yours. And I have to tell them he isn’t perfect. He actually isn’t my boyfriend. He and I are friends who have struggles and pain that keep our relationship the way it is. It is painful being with him sometimes. He isn’t perfect and I promise you all the people who seem to have the “perfect” relationship are lying. They struggle and they go through pain as you do.

We go through pain to show us the way to become one with the universe, to find ourselves. It’s like polarity, you can’t have one without the other. If there wasn’t darkness we wouldn’t know what light was. 

Darkness and the IT

In the movie, A Wrinkle in Time, the IT travels through the darkness. It is faster than light and travels everywhere. It affects everywhere in the universe. Darkness controls all of us. It takes away our happiness and hope. Jealousy and envy are what takes the place of happiness. That is where the pain comes from.

When we feel pain it’s because we are wanting to be something we aren’t. We think that having the perfect and having that next thing is what creates happiness. It is not true. People driven by darkness are people who fight and start wars because we want to OWN the land or have the almighty POWER! 

The darkness thinks power is the almighty. Pain, suffering, hate, and envy are darkness. As long as we feel that, we can’t have light. If we are jealous because that person has the perfect relationship, that is what will keep us from having the relationship we are meant to have. The darkness feeds on pain and envy. 

The dark will change its face many times. 

It will create a face in someone or something else to keep you from living your best life. It can stop you from manifesting the most magnificent and loving life. In the movie, the IT or darkness creates a place that is ever-changing. It makes you think you are hungry to bring you in. 

The dark will make you think that being skinny or rich is the only way to happiness. It will make you think that having a child or the perfect relationship is the key to life. When in reality that may not be the life for you. It can be something the darkness uses to distract you from your real purpose in life. 

Wars and hate are all because people let in the darkness. They want a certain life that was created based on what happened when we were children. If you don’t get love as a child you will create ways to fill that void. The darkness finds those flaws and turns them against us to gain power.

Our flaws can help us

All those flaws we have inside are not made to stop us. They are made to grow us. The darkness will use those negative aspects we think we have against us. If we embrace and LOVE our FLAWS, the darkness won’t have anything left to throw at us. The darkness will run out of the dark. 

Those flaws become our light. Our faults are our strengths. Use them against the dark to stay in the light. Our faults are BEAUTIFUL!

We can fight and bring back HOPE

We can fight the darkness by remembering that everyone has their own demons. Everyone has something inside that keeps them struggling and fighting. You may never see the demons because we do everything we can to hide it. 

Some people just want love. Others want to feel worthy and needed. We want to make a difference in this world. We all want something. And the things is… We ALL have that within us. We have the power to live a happy and fulfilling life. We have to fight the darkness and stay in the light. 

LOVE is the answer

Love is the key to light. Love is light. When we love ourselves in every way, we don’t allow the darkness to take from us what we know we deserve. We fight for our true happiness. We find hope and love in the smallest of things like our flaws. 

I don’t like certain aspects of myself. I am learning to love them little by little. I can be emotional. I can be pushy. I can be selfish. I can be lazy. I can feel worthless. I see my faults and I choose to love my faults. They are what makes me, ME. They are what got me to where I am today, good and bad. 

The more self-love I attain the more love I can give the world. The more love I can give the world the more light there is. If there is light people can find the way through the darkness. The way through the darkness is with LOVE. FIRST, love for yourself. Then, Love for others. 

WE are WARRIORS! Become a warrior of Earth! Bring light into this dark world any way you can. Bring love and happiness to everyone around you. SMILE! Say Hi to a stranger. Send a note to someone you love. Let someone you know you are there for them. What love you feel, let it out. The light wants to shine.

“All those who are willing to face the darkness… bring the best of themselves to the light… for the WORLD!”- A Wrinkle in Time

My New Job Choice

WOW! So it just hit me today how amazing it is to work online. It is such a blessing to work from home for so many reasons. For me, it is magnificent. I live my best life. As I have written in the past, I am an introvert and an empath. These two things make it difficult for me to be around people all the time. I take in the energies and emotions of other people. If I am around angry people with no time to recharge, I become exhausted and emotionally chaotic.

Teaching online gives me emotional space from people.

Since it is through the computer, I don’t take in the energies and emotions like I would if I was physically near them. I have been teaching online for a month now and I notice a huge difference.

During the day, I am not near people. Seriously! I am home with Nina for most of the day. I work 2-hour shifts throughout the day which is amazing. It is such a noticeable difference for me when I can choose who and when I am around people. If I am needing space, I stay home. If I want to go out and talk to people I do. 

When I work, the computer creates a barrier that allows me to keep the emotional and energetic distance from the students. I can tell when they are tired, sick or not wanting to be in class. I, however, have the distance I need to not take that energy on. It is a wonderous thing!! Especially for an Empath like me. 

Teaching online gives me flexibility.

Since I can create my own schedule, I am able to give my self the choice to interact with people or not. Being an introvert is difficult when you work at a school (or any place with people). There were times where I didn’t want to go to work because I didn’t want to talk to people. I just wanted to do my job and leave. 

With teaching online, I can do that just. I don’t have people coming into my classroom to talk to me about the weekend or other random conversation. I teach my students and I leave the classroom. I don’t have to deal with the administration or a principal or other co-workers. When I need to deal with admin, it’s via email. Which makes it super simple. 

If it’s the time of the month where I am feeling I need some socialization, I call up a friend or go someplace to talk with people. If I am not feeling social, I stay home with Nina and write or create content for the blog among other things. 

Working From Home is a lifesaver.

Being able to work from home is truly a lifesaver. I am able to live the way that is best for me. I am work when I want and where I want. If I want to travel to the US for an event, I can work part of the time I am there. I could work from Thailand if I wanted too. As long as there’s internet, I can work. 

There is stress involved because I am not guaranteed a salary.  So each month, I may not be able to pay all my bills. Budgeting and having savings for emergencies is a must. Some of the hours are really early in the morning like 3 or 4 am. Since I am teaching children in China the difference makes me work early. I do work for another company that is with the Spanish countries. This one is afternoons and evenings. The pay is low compared to teaching Chinese students. 

Either way, the stress is doable because I am mentally and spiritually in a better place. 

I LOVE MY LIFE!

For all the reasons listed above, working online is the best job ever! I am grateful and blessed to have this opportunity. I am looking forward to what the future brings. Changes bring good things when you do them for the right reasons. 

I encourage you to live your best life by making choices that work for you in every way: mentally, spiritually, physically, and emotionally. Let me know what choices you have made so you can live your best life. Big or small. Tough or easy. Let me know.