Last night, Jonathan asked me to be his girlfriend. First… who does that? And second… it was perfect!
I do not think I have ever had a man ask me to be his girlfriend. Most of the time we just date and eventually we “assume” that we are boyfriend and girlfriend. When you start to meet each other’s families you then know that you are boyfriend and girlfriend.
After I moved, to Costa Rica I was talking with some friends about dating and relationships. She told me that she never does certain things with a guy until he asks her to be her boyfriend. This made me think for a little bit. Then I forgot about it until I was in a “relationship” with a guy (you all know who he is. I write about him a lot.) I had “assumed” he and I were boyfriend and girlfriend like I had done with everyone in the past. This turned out to be wrong. We were not boyfriend and girlfriend. This caused a lot of issues, I am pretty sure I wrote about in a previous post.
Since then, I have made sure that if the relationship went past a certain point the man would ask me. I have only had one guy ask me since then, until now…
Yesterday, was a month since Jonathan and I met. He is the new maintenance man for my landlord. I first saw him when he came to fix my A/C a month and half ago. He and I didn’t talk because I had a friend over and he was busy helping my landlord with the A/C.
Two weeks after that I saw him making a new trash can for the apartment out front. I was standing on the side of the road waiting for the bus to come. I was headed to Liberia and Playas del Coco with a friend. I thought about going over and talking to him. Something about him made me smile. I decided not to because I needed to figure out this bus situation. I went about my day thinking about him a few times throughout the day. Around 5pm, my friend and I were at a bus stop in Filadelfia. We were talking about guys. I told her about the new maintenance man. I wanted to make sure he wasn’t married or seeing anyone, so I asked my landlord is he was single. They said he is separated. I asked them to give him my number for me. Within a few minutes, he messaged me. We have been talking and going on adventures ever since. We have had some communication issues since he doesn’t speak English. It has shown me so much about myself. I have posted about some of it and I will post about more to come.
This post is about how he asked me. So… here it is….
He came over to my house and gave me a long hug and a kiss, He sat me on my bed. He motioned for me to wait. He turns away from me and gets something out of a bag. I just sit on the edge of the bed waiting. He turns around with a handful of papers. He holds them in front of him, smiling at me. I read the first one, smile, and nod. He removes that one and I read the next one. This goes on for about 9 sheets of paper (two of which I posted) with the last one saying “do you agree to be my girlfriend?” I smiled and said “yes” with the biggest smile on my face. I am surprised I didn’t cry. He then gives me the flowers and some chocolate! He is absolutely the sweetest.
How he went about the whole things was the best because it showed me his respect, his “love”, and appreciation for me and our relationship. It was perfect. I would share all 10 sheets, yet I want to keep somethings personal. I want to keep some of this in my heart, just for me.
I have said this many times, do not settle for anything less than what you deserve. If you don’t know what you deserve, figure it out. Life is worth living, not settling!