** Spoiler alert! if you haven’t seen the movie don’t read any further**
Ever wonder why certain things happen in life. You meet people who you have an amazing connection with, but nothing happens? It feels as though something keeps you apart time after time. You feel helpless because there is nothing you can do about it. It is like the universe keeps putting obstacles in your way so you can be friends or lovers.
I recently watched The Adjustment Bureau, and it made me think.
Does this really happen in life? Are their people you are destined to be with at one point in your life: then the story changes and you aren’t together anymore, but the connection is there?
About the movie
Matt Damon, the actor that plays the lead character, meets this girl in the bathroom before he gives a speech. They instantly feel a connection. He thinks about her all the time. Damon gets her number and plans to call her. The “adjustment bureau” takes the number away saying he can never see her again.
He ignores this and takes the same bus every day for 3 years, hoping he would run into her again. Out of luck, they meet again. This time he doesn’t want to lose her. He knows that the bureau is out to keep them apart, and fights.
You find out that they were destined to be together in the past. The story changed and she was meant to marry someone else. The connection never ended. They still feel drawn to each other.
Matt Damon can’t deny the connection and does everything he can to fight the bureau. A bureau member helps him, and the girl breaks the story. They wind up living a good life together in the end.
Free Will or Fate
At the end of the movie, one of the men from the adjustment bureau states, “Most people live life on the path we set for them. Too afraid to explore any other. But once in a while people like you come along and knock down all the obstacles we put in your way. People who realize free will is a gift, you’ll never know how to use until you fight for it. I think that’s The Chairman’s real plan. And maybe, one day, we won’t write the plan. You will.”
If we fight hard enough to break the path set for us, can we really have a new plan? Does life really work that way? If there are people who are completely connected, can you really fight hard enough to be with them?
I ABSOLUTELY think this is true. I believe that if you are purely and deeply connected together with someone, you can fight to be with them. It won’t be easy because every obstacle will be put in the way of stopping it from happening.
Yet, it can be done.
That’s where the F*@# YES deeper comes in to play. You have to want it bad enough to change it. We have the power of free will, we don’t know how to use it because society and “the plan” tell us otherwise.
You will have to leave the comfortable.
Go against what you thought you knew,
Change your mindset and your way of living,
And MOST IMORTANTLY, you have to TRUST yourself.
Question life and don’t settle for mediocre.
If you want it, you have to make it happen. No one or thing should tell you that something isn’t real.
What if both people don’t fight?
This is the question I am still trying to figure out.
In the movie, Matt Damon fought with everything he had to make it happen. She didn’t. She also didn’t know what he knew. And in the end, they broke the story created for them and lived together.
It is a movie, and all the movies aren’t necessarily true. Is it possible? It is possible to change YOUR plan if YOU work for it. The other person has to work to change THEIR plan. We all have paths we CAN change with determination and growth. It doesn’t mean that the other person will fall into your new path. It is possible because ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.
Work on you and change your path. See where the new path takes you. Become the superwoman or man you have always dreamed of becoming. Break free of the cycles and find your own fate. Life the life you choose and see who and where that finds you.
What is connection, anyway?
Connection is the energy between people. When we feel a connection to someone it is the strong similar energy we feel. Energy doesn’t lie. Energy doesn’t disappear. It does transform and becomes something new.
If you change your life, your energy changes. It can transform that connection you had with someone else in ways you never could imagine.
Learn and use your free will to transform the energy. It is there and it is worth fighting for.