Category: Personal Development

What is Self-Love?

sandy beach with blue water and a brown mountain.

I have been writing about self-love a lot recently. It is one of my specialties. Learning what self-love is took me a long time. I have come to master it in so many ways. Even during a difficult time, I know what to do to give myself the love I need to make it through.

Since I am a self-love specialist and have been writing a lot about the subject, I should probably tell you what self-love is. 

Self Love can take many forms.

Self- love is deep or shallow. There are so many ways someone can show themselves self-love. It can range from saying “I love you” to working through past trauma. It varies and changes depending on what is going on in a person’s life. I am going to break it down into different parts. You may be really good at one part and struggle with the other ways. 

You need all forms of self-love to live a happy and fulfilled life. It is easy to neglect one way and focus on others. The way to get the most out of life is to practice self-love in every area of your life. 

Physical

This consists of doing things for yourself that you need physically.  You would be surprised how often people do not take care of themselves physically. This is a basic need that should be met no matter what. There are way more ways than the ones listed below. This list is a starting point.

  • Take a shower every day. If you need twice a day.
  • Clip your toenails and fingernails. (I am not kidding you on this one.)
  • Brush and floss your teeth.
  • Do your hair. Make sure it is nice. If you are a man, get it cut regularly. If you are a girl, switch up the hairstyle every now and then.
  • Eat and drink healthy. Sometimes this means giving up smoking or drinking alcohol. 
  • Wear nice, clean clothes. I don’t mean dress for a black tie event. I am talking about having nice clothes. No holes, no dirt, no sweat stains, the right size, etc. 
  • Shave. For girls shave your legs, armpits, and other areas you like to shave often. For men, if you have a beard keep it tight. Here in Costa Rica, plenty of men actually shave their armpits as well. Since it is so hot it keeps them from smelling bad. 
  • Drink fresh water. I am not talking about flavored water or water with something added to it. If you need to add electrolytes as I do here, that’s okay because it can keep you from being dehydrated. 
  • Exercise. Whether it is running around the yard with your dog or running a marathon get active. There are so many ways to stay fit. Take an aerial yoga class, swim, or dance. Do what you can do. 

Emotional

Emotions can be intense or dampened depending on the person. They can vary in intensity too. Some people experience a ton of emotions (this is me) and others simply ignore them. One way or another they need to be understood and overcame. This can be done a bunch of ways. 

  • Let yourself go through the emotion. Cry or Scream if needed
  • Write down your feelings and emotions.
  • Talk to a therapist or someone you trust about what you are feeling and going through.
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (They have apps for this) I have used this in the past and it is super helpful with understanding feelings, thoughts, and emotions.
  • Take space to deal with what is going on inside. Do breathing exercises. 
  • Tell people how you feel.
  • Walk away from people who are negative or harmful to you.

Spiritual

This one is the hardest for me to get now that I am in Costa Rica. When in the states, I had a school in NYC that I attended. Here is either cost a boat ton of money or during my workday. For me, the church doesn’t help anymore. I don’t want to get into that. Here are some suggestions for you.

  • A spiritual school
  • Church
  • Yoga/Meditating
  • Self-Improvement seminars 
  • Breathing Exercises

Social

This one will vary depending on the person. If you are an extrovert you may need more of this than an introvert. As you begin to understand what you need, you will notice how much socialization you need and when. This can be friendships and intimate partners. 

  • Take your self out on a date. Go to the movies. Plan a romantic dinner at your favorite restaurant. Give yourself the date you have always wanted.
  • Meet someone new or talk to someone new. Volunteer at a local food shelter and start chatting with the people there. Say “hi” to your neighbor that you never talk to. 
  • Try a new activity. Join a meetup for something you like to do. Join a book club or writing club. 
  • Move or visit another country. 
  • If you don’t hang out with a person of the same sex often, start finding friends of the same sex.
  • Do something for your partner, that they have been wanting for a long time.

Take Away

There are so many more ways you can create self-love for yourself under these different categories. You may struggle with one or two categories more than the others. How you give self-love depends on your personality types and what you like. For example, I am introvert, so if I have been very social for 3 days in a row, I may need some space for myself. I could get that space by watching a movie at home, watching the sunset alone, or getting my toenails done. 

Everyone can show themselves love and it’s the start of a better and more fulfilling life! Find your inner superwoman (or superman)!

**In a few weeks, I will be releasing a workbook to help with some of these areas. I am so excited to share it with you soon. So keep a look out for the release!

Difficult Times: It Doesn’t Last Forever

Classes have been out for two weeks now. It has been a rough two weeks. The first three to four days, it was great and amazing. I felt free. Since then, it’s been a bit low for me. I have been crying, sleeping, avoiding people, and feeling useless. I have been having a difficult time dealing with some stuff in life. A few things have attributed to this.

Birth Control

I started birth control again. After a Birth Control free year, I decided I needed to start taking it again. The last three months, I have been getting headaches. Headaches so bad I couldn’t function. No medicine, even migraine medicine would help. It made it very difficult to work on the website, spend time with Nina, or focus on teaching. The migraines would happen three to four times a month and last two to five days. 

Headaches can keep anyone from living a full life. They hurt so bad you can’t open your eyes. They are so often you can’t call out of work. It is debilitating. Birth Control has kept my headaches gone in the past so starting BC again is what I need to show my self-love. 

Detoxing

When we are exposed to energies and difficult situations, our bodies are subject to constant fight mode. If we can’t get away from it for a long period of time it builds up. When we do get the space we need, we have to detox all the energies and feelings we weren’t able to let go of. 

During the school year,  I had some difficult students. They drained me in more ways than one. I wasn’t able to decompress enough during the school year. So, the last eight days have been very emotional for me. I have been wanting to sleep and avoid people because I couldn’t do that during the school year. I wanted to stay home and take time off so I could take care of myself. With a teaching job that isn’t easy to call out of work. 

Now, I am not around the students and I can finally let my self release all of that tension. To do this, I need to sleep and stay at home as often as I can until I feel free from the energies. 

Dealing with the past

When I was little, how my mom and dad were with me has shaped how I feel about myself now. My dad based my allowance on how well I did in school and took that way depending on how I kept my room clean. So, therefore I never had an allowance. When I got older my mom didn’t help me with money as much as she did my sister. Both of these led me to believe I am not “good enough” to make money. I am not “good enough” to have anything good in life that costs money. 

Recently, I started applying to teach online to make extra money during the summer to pay off some debts. It has been a struggle because I know teaching online will help me achieve the goals I have. My ideas of money from the past are keeping me from doing so. I have to deal with this feeling of not being good enough to fully live the life I want. 

It’s okay to feel the way you feel.

When someone is going through a lot of changes it is okay to feel the way they feel. I have been feeling sad, down, unloved, and many other feelings. I have been making sure I give my self-love even if I don’t feel it like I normally do. 

I allow myself to cry, stay alone, and give myself credit for the small things. Even though I am not functioning at 100% my best, I am functioning. I tell myself… thank you for playing fetch with Nina outside, thank you for eating a salad instead of eating a burger, and thank you for cleaning the dishes in the sink. 

All of those things may seem small and unimportant, but when you are struggling those things are the simplest and biggest way to remind yourself that you are okay and you won’t die. There are so many other small activities I have been doing that allow me to be with what I am feeling. If I need to cry for an hour to release the sadness, I do it. If I need to sleep for 4 hours during the day, I do it. 

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING…. IT DOESN’T LAST FOREVER!! If you allow your self to feel it and go through it, it goes away. I promise. I am slowly getting back to the normal me. Each day, I become a better me. 

You can do it too!!

You can make it through your difficult times just like me. Self-love, appreciation, and doing the best you can all make a huge difference in dealing with change. I didn’t run from it. I didn’t hide from it. I am dealing with it by changing my mindset, loving myself, and being patient. You can do the same.

Remind yourself that you area phoenix burning so you can be reborn again stronger and more beautiful than before! You are superwoman and it is okay to be down. We all have our kryptonite. It doesn’t last forever!

Part Two: How Do We Find Out What Needs to be Changed?

This is part two of a series about change. Last week, I wrote about the signs you may have when you need to change things in your life. This article is about how to find out what needs change. There are so many things we could need to change in our life. It could be our jobs, relationships, diet, or anything in between. 

So, how do we find out what needs to be changed? It could be everything needs to change or just one aspect. Here is how I find out what needs to be shifted. 

Meditate

Meditating can help you calm your mind of all the junk thoughts. It can relax your body and mind so you can get past the emotions. Our emotions can cause us to think irrationally and make decisions that aren’t based on reality. When we take the time to meditate with Yoga, breathing, or any other calming activity, we create a sense of space for ourselves to dig deep. 

If we are always angry, upset, or irritated our decisions will be based on those energies as well. Maybe the emotions and feelings are coming from a sense of ego and you just need to adjust yourself. Other times the emotions and feeling like anger and sadness are from outside forces telling you it’s time to move on. 

Feel Your Energy

Feel what’s going on inside of you. Where are the emotions and energies coming from? Our ego or other people? As an Empath, I take on energies from everyone. Some are harder for me to separate from my own than others. If I take into account that I am calm inside, but I still feel these things so maybe it is the environment that I am in. 

It can be hard for someone to feel these energies and take a step back if they don’t meditate. That is why I suggest meditation as the first step to understanding where the changes should occur. We know what we need to do for ourselves, we just need to trust ourselves and find out where it’s coming from. 

Take Some Time Away

Distance is a good way to see what you need to do. If you leave your job for the weekend and you are feeling a sense of relief, but still have anxiety it could mean you need to switch jobs. I have been in jobs where I love being at work. I look forward to going every day even if there is stress. 

If you are with a significant other and you are unsure of the relationship, adding some space can help you clear your mind and see what you really want. 

Space is always good for finding out what is the cause and what is not. If you have an allergy to milk, the only way to find out if you do or not is to stop drinking or eating milk products. If your symptoms go away then you know it was the milk. The same thing goes for other areas of our lives. 

Again, beware of leaving a situation. It could be your ego that needs to change, sometimes. 

Talk It Out

Not sure what to think, talk to a trusted friend. Tell someone you are really close to that would give you unbiased support. If you are having issues with your job, don’t talk to a co-worker who may have the same anxieties. If you aren’t sure about your relationship, talk to someone who may not know everything about that person, such as family. 

Talking it out can give you some ideas that you didn’t have words for. It helps you get the thoughts out of your head and into the world. If you don’t have anyone to talk to writing it out can be just as helpful. Or do both, talking and writing. I love talking to people because they could give you a perspective you didn’t know. You may think that leaving your job for another similar job in the area isn’t an option, but there may be another option someone else knows. The universe will give you when you need it, you just need to be open to it. 

Pros and Cons List

I use this to write down all the reasons to do or not to do something. It gets the thoughts organized in my brain. I can physically see if there are more pros or cons of making a decision. If I have more cons than it probably is not a good decision to leave or make the change. 

Take away

With all these combined, you can make an informed and sound choice on what you should do to live a better life. Deep down, who really wants to live a mediocre or unfulfilling life? You deserve to live a great and meaningful like. To have that life, you need to change. Don’t be afraid to make life-changing decisions. We only grow after we go through something rough and break down the ego around it. 

I challenge you to go out and make a change in your life. Look at the areas that no longer suit you and do something about it. I promise if you do it for the right reasons (even the bad reasons) you will change as a person. Just stay open to whatever could happen. Manifest the life you want and live it. 

It all started with… Self Love

For most of my childhood into my teenage years, I thought that I was an extrovert. I craved attention and was always the life of the party. I would do random stuff like play pocket twister in the middle of the mall with my friends. I was never happy. It seemed right. It seemed as though I was living the perfect life. 

When I was married, my then husband and I would go out drinking having fun. I had so many friends. On my wedding day, I had bridesmaids that were my best friends. You know, living life. All while I was dying inside. I had no idea what I needed and I never took care of myself the way I do now. 

After my divorce, I started to dig deeper within myself. I wanted to be happy. I wanted to take control of my life. All those bridesmaids I had disappeared (except my sister). Two of which I had been friends with for 20 years. 

Seriously, I lost everything. My marriage, my friends, and life as I knew it. I was devastated. Not because I lost everything, but because I didn’t know who I was anymore. 

I had to figure out how to give myself love. I had to find who I truly was deep inside. 

It all started with… Self Love.

I started giving myself love in small ways, like getting my nails done when I was having a hard time. I was learning how to truly love myself. I was not always the cleanest person, so I started making sure my care was clean and my house was clean. I started making sure I was eating healthier foods. So many little things I never did to love my body and my mind. 

After a time, that self-love grew deeper. I began to forgive my family and myself. I let go of what happened in my marriage. I owned my mistakes and put myself in his shoes. I came to peace with many aspects of my childhood. 

I acknowledged that fact that I am not an extrovert. Deep inside, I am an introvert. I crave my alone time. I NEED the space to feel my emotions and process my thoughts. I HAD to learn to be who I truly am. 

Being an introvert is different than an extrovert.

Extroverts need to be around people to recharge and feel fulfilled. Introverts need time away from people to be with themselves. The self-love for each type is so different. Introverts like me need to go on dates with themselves. While extroverts need to go out an socialize. 

Self-love is as hard as it is. Giving yourself the wrong type of self-love can be damaging to your entire life. It took me years to figure this out. I actually figured this out when I took the Myer’s Briggs personality test in College. 

The test told me I was an INFJ. The “I” stands for an introvert. 

I was shocked and blown away by this. I didn’t want to believe it. I thought I was an extrovert my entire life. After some thinking and manifesting, this changed the way I saw myself, which changed my life.

I think all the self-love I was doing before I took that test was preparing me for the shift I needed with my mind. I knew in my heart for so many years that I wasn’t an extrovert. When I began to give myself love, I began to see things differently. So, after the test results, life made sense. Everything was complete. My mind, body, and soul where one. 

I knew who I was at that moment.

I found my true self. The work didn’t stop there though. I am still working on the self-love because self-love is a never-ending process. I am learning new ways to show myself love for my personality type and for my needs. 

If we can’t love ourselves truly, we can’t love others truly. 

It all starts with… Self Love!!

Life Requires Change: Part One

Playa Ocotal Sunset

In order to keep true to yourself, you need to know what’s not working for you. Sometimes we think what is best for us is staying where we are. And other times we just need to make a change and get outside the box. Self-love is being able to say no when something isn’t working and have faith to find what will work.

Signs you need a change

Change is needed to give yourself the love you need. There are many signs that I have noticed over the years that show me something needs to change. There are different reasons a person might want to change. As I have stated in past articles, some change is done because we are running from something. Another change is done because our soul needs it. Here are some signs your soul wants some adjustment. 

Too Tired

You may need a change when you are tired all the time. You work a long day and all you want to do is sleep and watch tv. You don’t enjoy the things you used to enjoy because you are too tired to go do them. You stop cooking healthy meals because you are too tired to cook them. There are so many things we don’t do because we are exhausted. You can sleep 12 hours a night with a nap in the afternoon and still be exhausted. Being tired all the time is a sign that your soul needs a rest. You are not living the best life you can. Your soul needs a rest from something you aren’t giving it. 

Angry or Depressed

When we are not living our best lives, we aren’t doing the things we love. This can cause anger or depression. Possibly, both. Depending on the situation, you could be depressed because you know you deserve better. You could be angry because you feel that you have no other options. It comes down to our souls wanting to be free. We feel caged and trapt in our situations with no way out. Or we lie to ourselves saying we need to stay where we are. If we are truly living, we would be happy, content, and awake. 

Fear of the Unknown

Fear of the unknown can keep us boxed into the life we are living. We don’t want to change jobs or move abroad or leave the person we spent so much time with. Change isn’t easy. It pushes us to grow and learn something. Fear of the unknown is a trap for so many people to stay where they are. We don’t want to leave the comfort zone because what lies ahead isn’t a sure thing. When we fear something so much we deny it, it can be a sign of needed change. Our soul knows that something great is on the other side of the change, yet we don’t want to do it because it is scary. 

Relationships don’t seem to matter

When I need some change in my life the relationships in my life seem like a lot of work. I don’t want to go out. I don’t want to message them. I just don’t want them. We are spending so much time on denying we need change that we don’t have the energy for what is important to us. We distance ourselves from the people we love because we are too exhausted to give them the love and attention they need or want.

Physical sickness

Headaches, stomach pains, or any other sickness that doesn’t seem to go away. Even weight gain. These can all be stress related issues due to not giving yourself enough self-love. It’s our bodies way of telling us that something needs to change. I know for me, when I get sick I try to find out the root cause. There are things I know my body needs, so I can change my diet, add more exercise, do more breathing. When this doesn’t work, I have to look at other areas of my life that are causing me unneeded stress. Physical sickness combines with all the above can be a huge sign that something needs to change. 

Stay tuned for Part Two: How to find out what needs to be changed. Coming Soon!

Mindset Shift

a coin on the ground

A few years ago, some friends of mine were walking on the beach with me. One of them bent down to pick up a coin off the ground. She told me that she picks up the money she sees because if she doesn’t she won’t have good luck with money. If she doesn’t pick one up, the money won’t come to her again.

Since then, I pick up every coin I see on the ground. Sometimes I find 100 colones and sometimes I find 10 colones. One time, I found $1 worth of colones on the ground.

Until recently, I never missed a coin. I started to question what she said, just slightly.

Everything has energy, right?

Yea, it does. Every time you touch something (or walk into a place), you leave energy and you pick up the energy that was there before. Some energy is better than others. So, this got me thinking…

What if the coin I was picking up had negative energy? Like the person was bad with money and they lost the money due to a negative mindset around money.

Right, so?

What if I pick up that money and now have that bad luck with money?

I choose to risk this and find out. There were a few times where I saw some money and decided not to pick it up depending on how the money “felt”. I was walking in Huacas and I saw some money on the ground. I looked at the money and thought about picking it up. I choose not to because I didn’t feel right.

Two days later, I found more money in the parking lot of the Maxi Pali. I did the same. I felt it and thought about picking it up. This time I did because I felt it was right.

Then a few days later, someone gave me money to help with my monthly bills. I don’t know what would have happened if I had picked up that first coin, but I am willing to leave money that doesn’t feel right. I would rather have little money than have money that is tainted in some way.

This can be applied to relationships and everything else in our lives.

Just because a relationship seems promising or it has something you really like, doesn’t mean you need to “keep” it. People carry energy just like money. If someone is dealing with something in their lives, it doesn’t mean you need to be with them all the time. Occasionally, they need space to be with their thoughts, to deal with themselves.

If you don’t shift your mindset, you will keep getting the same things.

Write a Bucket List: Live Your Best Life

Everyone has a list of things they want to accomplish in their life. I know I do. Having a bucket list is great for personal development. When we think of personal development, we think of overcoming fears or changing our way of being. Which is a lot of work and not necessarily fun.

It doesn’t always have to be full of work. We can make personal development fun and exciting. Live your best life.

When a person is working on themselves they are working to become a better person than they were the day before. Your bucket list can help you do that too. I have crossed off so many things from my list. Each time I did so, I grew in some way or another. I think of the things I want to achieve as an adventure that is waiting to happen.

Over the last 10 years, I have done so have so many amazing adventures while completing my bucket list. I have done things I never thought I could. It has been wonderful. Some I shared with friends and family. Others I did alone. It didn’t matter who I did it with, I still learned something valuable.

Items from my Bucket list I have completed.

Skydiving:

When I turned 18 my dad and I went skydiving together. It was spectacular! I am afraid of heights so falling from a plane at that height was terrifying for me. Once I was in the plane, things were completely different. I felt free and open. It was beautiful and jaw dropping. The experience can ONLY be understood when you do it.

Getting Tattoos:

I have two tattoos. One I knew I wanted for a few years before I got it. A friend of mine had drawn me a picture of a fairy sitting on a moon. The minute she happened it to me, I knew I was the symbol I wanted to use to remember my Memom. So, as soon as I turned 18 I got it done.

The second was done last year. I wrote a blog about it after I did it. You can read about it here. It was pretty unexpected. I knew I wanted another tattoo, but I didn’t know when or where. Then one day, I just did it. And I ABSOLUTELY love it!

Living Abroad:

You can ask anyone. When I was younger, I talked about living in another country. For years, I thought it was living in Africa helping the children their. Then I took a trip there for two weeks and changed my mind. It is an amazing country, but taking Maleria pills every day and having to worry about what I could or couldn’t do was too much for me long term.

So, where did I move? COSTA RICA. Moving here 2 years ago has been a complete game changer. It has been filled with so many perfect memories and life-changing events. I grow more and more every day. I am learning a new language and making new friends. It has been better than I ever expected it to be. I am living my best life.

Create a way to share with the world:

I created my blog to share what I am learning with the world. I use the blog to motivate and encourage others to live outside their comfort zone and become the best version of themselves. It is a fantastic experience that I look forward to doing every day. I am learning to write better everyday, finding new ways to influence people around me.

Scuba Dive:

I have always wanted to experience life under the sea. The best way to do this was to go scuba diving. I thought you needed certification to do this (it costs around $600), so I never did it. When I moved to Costa Rica, I learned that you could do a discovery dive without the certification. It was such an insane experience! It showed me so much about breathing and being with myself. You can read about it here.

My bucket list is ever changing, always adding new things. Here is my Bucket list as of today and why!

Visit Egypt.

In Egypt, there is so much history as to where spirituality started (Hermetic Philosophy). It is a place full of wonder and curiosity. I want to go to feel the energy and understand more about the culture and history behind the pyramids.

Spend 1-2 Months in Thailand.

There are so many spiritual retreats and meditation centers in Thailand. I want to go and spend some time learning from the people their. Visiting a different culture is great for opening the mind and understanding things in a new way.

Go on a 2-3 month Cruise.

I have never been on a cruise, but a friend of mine is on an epic adventure on a 3 month cruise through different countries. I want to be able to create lasting friendships with fellow travelers as well as meet new people around the world. What better way than on a cruise?

Publish a Book about my life.

This one is in the works. It will take some time to cultivate and produce. I have lots of different stories and events that I want to share with the world. Figuring out how to write it the best way possible is a little tricky.

Create an online coaching business where I can help others find their inner superwoman (or superman).

This is slowly but surely happening. I have to create content and build up my following. I am most excited about this one. I want others to have a life worth living instead of hiding. Each day, I am creating new and exciting things for my blog, so that I can reach this goal within the next 3-4 years.

What is your bucket list?

Take some time to write a bucket list. What types of things would you put on there? Travel? Conferences? Opening a business? Experiences? Which ones have you completed in the past? And how did they change you? Remember, live your best life.

Top Pinterest Quotes

Quotes are amazing to help you understand your life or stay motivated. I use them on my Pinterest every day. I wanted to share my top 15 from Pinterest with you. I hope they inspire you. Motivate you. Change you. And Energize you to follow your dreams!

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I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.

Maya Angelou
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Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.

George Bernard Shaw
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Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.

Roy T. Bennett
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Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental block into building blocks.

Dr. Roopleen
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Anything is possible if you’ve got enough nerve.

J.K. Rowling
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All decisions you need to make are questions. And to make the decision you need to find the answer.

Ashley Sprinkel, writer, weidergabe.com
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Money is necessary, but with a mind that finds joys in the simple things, anything is possible.

Sarah Garret, my friend

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Personal Development: Seven Principles of Hermeticism

A beach wtih clear and blue water. people swimming, a boat, and a person walking in the waves on shore.

Personal Development is a long term process of becoming a better person than you were the day before. It takes a lifetime of work, practice, dedication, and growth. Working on oneself isn’t easy. It takes a strong and determined person to overcome fears, difficulties, and live a happy life. Even when you feel like you failed you still need the strength and perseverance to keep going.

I once took a course at Landmark. They told me “There is nothing wrong with you, shit is just in the way.” That stuck with me. We are all perfect beings with crap in the way. Personal development is a way to get rid of that shit. Some people are so deep in their shit (ego) that they can’t see a way out. I find that when this is the case, it takes a lot of willpower and determination to dig deep and clean yourself of all the stuff holding you back. Some people prefer to sit in their stuff because it is easier or some other reason only they know. It is okay because not everyone is meant to evolve into a higher state of consciousness.

Seven Principles of Hermeticism

To understand this deeper, we need to understand the 7 principles of Hermeticism. I attended a school for Hermetic Philosophy for a few years. (I hope to return again soon.) The school opened my eyes to the beginning of why things are the way they are. I have so much more to learn, but what I have learned I want to share with you.

You can read about where Hermeticism started in The Kybalion. Not only does the book tell you the origin, but it also goes into detail the 7 Principles. It is a really good read.

I want to briefly take you through the 7 Principles of Hermeticism. Understanding these are the beginning. At least, they were for me. There are some principles that I understand more than others. I still don’t fully grasp any of them. To fully understand these principles takes time, experience, and comprehension. Since I am not a master, there is more to be understood and learned.

Principle One: Mentalism

“All is mind.” —The Kybalion.

Everything is mental, whether it is energy, power, or matter. It all begins in the mind. In order to master life, you have to master your mental state. Elevate your energy to a higher way of thinking. Everything that happens in your conscious and unconscious mind affects what is around you. This explains why some people have things and others do not. I know for me mentally, I do not attract wealth in terms of money because of my mental thoughts. The more I work towards transmuting my mental thoughts the more I receive in the areas I lack.

Principle Two: Correspondence

“As above, so below; as below, so above.”—The Kybalion.

This principle is one of the most important. It can help you understand that there are different levels of truth and that the Universe is grander than we imagine. There is an unknown part of life that we have yet to see. The principle of correspondence shows us that what is above, so below and what is below, so above. So what is here on earth, there is in another plane in the Universe.

What we do affects the other planes and vis versa. This is one of the principles that I struggle to understand deeply. It goes much deeper than my current understanding. And because I have such little understanding of this, I don’t want to elaborate more.

Principle Three: Vibration

“Nothing rests; everything moves; everything vibrates.”—The Kybalion.

Everything has vibrations, whether it be a low or high vibration. The universe vibrations, animals and things vibrate. Some at a higher level and some at a lower level. What we eat has a vibration, so when we consume food we take on that vibration. Same with smoking and drinking. Ever notice that after a night of drinking you feel low and depressed? That is because your vibration was lowered by the alcohol. There are people who are more sensitive to vibrations and energies than others. This allows some people to perceive how things feel more deeply.

There are certain foods I can not eat or need to eat in small quantities. There are certain places I can only go for short periods of time. Certain people who make me want to run the other way. Of course, there are higher vibrating people, places, and things as well. All of which I can be felt if the person is conscious of the energies around them

Principle Four: Polarity

“Everything is Dual; everything has poles; everything has its pair of opposites; like and unlike are the same; opposites are identical in nature, but different in degree; extremes meet; all truths are but half‑truths; all paradoxes may be reconciled.”—The Kybalion.

The statement above describes polarity perfectly. Everything has an opposite. Death and Life. Happy and Sad. Up and Down. You can’t have one without the other. This allows us to see the truths. We couldn’t understand happiness without pain and sadness. We couldn’t understand love without hate. Life without Death.

Principle Five: Rhythm

“Everything flows, out and in; everything has its tides; all things rise and fall; the pendulum‑swing manifests in everything; the measure of the swing to the right is the measure of the swing to the left; rhythm compensates.”—The Kybalion.

The pendulum is always swinging from left to right. We can move up the pendulum so that we aren’t as affected by it’s sway. Eventually being above it, looking down not affected at all. Same with the changing of the tides. We could be in the ocean on a huge boat where we are less affected by the tides or a smaller boat being affected more. Eventually, being on the shore just watching the tides change.

When we move to the left, there is always a reaction to move us to the right. Same with the changing of the tides. Rhythm is always moving and ever-changing. Think of a woman’s monthly cycle. It is always moving from creating new to getting rid of the old. It is the rhythm of life.

Principle Six: Cause and Effect

“Every Cause has its Effect; every Effect has its Cause; everything happens according to Law; Chance is but a name for Law not 16 recognized; there are many planes of causation, but nothing escapes the Law.”—The Kybalion.

This is something we all learned in school. You do something and something happens. You throw a stone and the water moves. The cause is the stone being thrown. The effect is water moving. It happens in everything. You change your mindset and something pushes back on you. You do something good (expecting nothing in return) and something good comes back to you. What we do on this plane of existence, affects another plane of existence. The Universe is connected to all, so our energies around things affect the universe.

Principle Seven: Gender

“Gender is in everything; everything has its Masculine and Feminine Principles; Gender manifests on all planes.”—The Kybalion.

This is one of the principles that I don’t have a deep understanding of. I know that things have a feminine and masculine portion to them. I know that in the physical world it is what we call our “sex”. I know on other planes in the Universe it doesn’t have a form. That is really all I understand. So I don’t want to go into more detail.  

Hermetic Books

If you want to learn more, there are a few books written on hermeticism available today. You can also reach out to The Institute for Hermetic Philosophy. The Institute has schools in NYC, Chile, Venezuela, and Russia to name a few. The NYC branch has monthly seminars you can attend without becoming a member. If you are interested, I recommend attending the seminars and reading the books to make sure it is something for you.

If you are interested in reading more about Hermeticism, these are the top 3 books to read.

The Kybalion

The Secret Science

The Stellar Man

Learning a New Language

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Yesterday, it hit me. I noticed how far I have come with learning Spanish. I called Jonathan because my messages weren’t going through. We had a good 5-minute conversation, IN SPANISH!! Also, I was able to tell a parent what I needed them to know IN SPANISH!

10 month ago, we couldn’t do that. I knew a few words in Spanish, but I had difficulty understanding him on the phone. I had no issues yesterday. IT WAS AMAZING!

I am just blown away with how much Spanish I know now.

When I moved here, I knew I would learn Spanish. I had doubts at how long that would take. I struggle with dyslexia and failed Spanish in High School. Being fluent in Spanish seemed like it would take many years. While I am not fluent, I am able to communicate what I need on a daily basis now.

I learned the most from being around Jonathan. Since we spend the most time together, it forced me to learn his language. At school and around town there are many people who speak English. This kept me from using Spanish more often.

For some people, taking Spanish lessons is the best way for them to learn a new language. For me, it is trial and error. Memorizing different types of words and phrases is monotonous. I am more of a visual person. Writing and reading different types of text helps me speak the language more.

I write and read text messages in Spanish to Jonathan daily. I watch Netflix with Spanish subtitles. Lastly, I read menus and paperwork at school. I am able to visually see the words in my head before speaking.

There is still a lot of learning to do with vocabulary and grammar. I am learning new vocabulary every day. Yesterday, I learned what dragonfly was, libélula and tell him, dile. My Spanish is not grammatically correct and I am okay with that. I am still learning. The most important thing is practice even if it is not always correct or perfect.

Learning a new language is difficult, but it can be done. Allow yourself to breathe. Figure out how you learn best. Some learn best in classes and some learn best by trial and error. Give yourself love and celebrate the achievements you make, even if it is a small one.