Category: Stories

Mindset Shift

a coin on the ground

A few years ago, some friends of mine were walking on the beach with me. One of them bent down to pick up a coin off the ground. She told me that she picks up the money she sees because if she doesn’t she won’t have good luck with money. If she doesn’t pick one up, the money won’t come to her again.

Since then, I pick up every coin I see on the ground. Sometimes I find 100 colones and sometimes I find 10 colones. One time, I found $1 worth of colones on the ground.

Until recently, I never missed a coin. I started to question what she said, just slightly.

Everything has energy, right?

Yea, it does. Every time you touch something (or walk into a place), you leave energy and you pick up the energy that was there before. Some energy is better than others. So, this got me thinking…

What if the coin I was picking up had negative energy? Like the person was bad with money and they lost the money due to a negative mindset around money.

Right, so?

What if I pick up that money and now have that bad luck with money?

I choose to risk this and find out. There were a few times where I saw some money and decided not to pick it up depending on how the money “felt”. I was walking in Huacas and I saw some money on the ground. I looked at the money and thought about picking it up. I choose not to because I didn’t feel right.

Two days later, I found more money in the parking lot of the Maxi Pali. I did the same. I felt it and thought about picking it up. This time I did because I felt it was right.

Then a few days later, someone gave me money to help with my monthly bills. I don’t know what would have happened if I had picked up that first coin, but I am willing to leave money that doesn’t feel right. I would rather have little money than have money that is tainted in some way.

This can be applied to relationships and everything else in our lives.

Just because a relationship seems promising or it has something you really like, doesn’t mean you need to “keep” it. People carry energy just like money. If someone is dealing with something in their lives, it doesn’t mean you need to be with them all the time. Occasionally, they need space to be with their thoughts, to deal with themselves.

If you don’t shift your mindset, you will keep getting the same things.

What to do on Rainy Days

It seems like October Weather in Costa Rica came a bit early this year. It has been raining PRETTY MUCH ALL DAY for 2 weeks. This normally doesn’t happen in May. Right now, we should be having rainy nights, not rain ALL DAY!

When it rains all day, you can’t go to the beach. Since most of what you can do is outdoors in Costa Rica, I had to find ways to keep myself busy while having fun indoors. I wanted to share this with you because these can happen during snow days, rainy days, or really any day you want to spend inside.

Play Cards

Since I collect cards, this is one of my favorite things to do on a rainy day. There are so many card games you could play. Here are my favorite games to play. Click on each

King’s Corners

Rummy

Crazy Eights

Egyptian Rat Screw

UNO with cards

Bake Something

I always get the craving for something sweet when it rains. I have a few go to recipes for desserts I use when it rains. Not only am I able to listen to music and make a mess, I get an amazing hot treat. Here are my top recipes.

PopTarts

I do make these a little differently than the recipe. I don’t actually make the rhubarb and strawberry compote. I just use strawberry jam. It comes out great and it’s a bit easier to do.

Brownies

Since I always have nesquick chocolate powder mix for hot chocolate. It’s simple and so delicious!

Peanut Butter Cookies

I have been making these since I was a kid. They are simple, easy, and soooo good!

Read a Book

I am sure there is a book you have always wanted to read. Why not take a rainy day to knock that book off your list? Curl up on the couch or in your bed with a cup of tea or hot chocolate, and enjoy a good book. I have a list of books that you could choose from if you need some help.

JUST DANCE!

Just DANCE! Even if you don’t have an Xbox, you can still enjoy a great workout and fun time doing just dance. I use these in my classroom for rainy days. The kids and I both love it. Head to youtube and find a song that moves you! Here’s a list of my favorites.

Timber

Starships

Dynamite

Animal

Where have you been

That Power

Other Ideas

There are so many things you can do at home on a rainy day. Draw and color a picture. Organize messy areas of your house. Paint. Have a deep conversation with a friend. Write a letter to someone special. Pillow fights. JUST HAVE FUN!

Learning a New Language

cloud forest bridge that says "Me encanta Costa Rica"

Yesterday, it hit me. I noticed how far I have come with learning Spanish. I called Jonathan because my messages weren’t going through. We had a good 5-minute conversation, IN SPANISH!! Also, I was able to tell a parent what I needed them to know IN SPANISH!

10 month ago, we couldn’t do that. I knew a few words in Spanish, but I had difficulty understanding him on the phone. I had no issues yesterday. IT WAS AMAZING!

I am just blown away with how much Spanish I know now.

When I moved here, I knew I would learn Spanish. I had doubts at how long that would take. I struggle with dyslexia and failed Spanish in High School. Being fluent in Spanish seemed like it would take many years. While I am not fluent, I am able to communicate what I need on a daily basis now.

I learned the most from being around Jonathan. Since we spend the most time together, it forced me to learn his language. At school and around town there are many people who speak English. This kept me from using Spanish more often.

For some people, taking Spanish lessons is the best way for them to learn a new language. For me, it is trial and error. Memorizing different types of words and phrases is monotonous. I am more of a visual person. Writing and reading different types of text helps me speak the language more.

I write and read text messages in Spanish to Jonathan daily. I watch Netflix with Spanish subtitles. Lastly, I read menus and paperwork at school. I am able to visually see the words in my head before speaking.

There is still a lot of learning to do with vocabulary and grammar. I am learning new vocabulary every day. Yesterday, I learned what dragonfly was, libélula and tell him, dile. My Spanish is not grammatically correct and I am okay with that. I am still learning. The most important thing is practice even if it is not always correct or perfect.

Learning a new language is difficult, but it can be done. Allow yourself to breathe. Figure out how you learn best. Some learn best in classes and some learn best by trial and error. Give yourself love and celebrate the achievements you make, even if it is a small one.

Being an Empath and a Woman

Being a Woman

Being a woman and an Empath is hard. There are so many things that affect us in ways that some people can’t imagine. We have a monthly cycle that changes every month. One month you are fine and perfect, the next you are an emotional wreck about to break. You feel like the world is going to end. Or you feel like the world is yours to own.

There is no stopping it because it’s there. It’s who we are as women. We have the ability to create life and this comes with emotional and hormonal changes that we need. We have this ability to feel and understand emotions. It is a hard job. We are the creators of life that is why there is a Woman’s Day. A day to celebrate the beauty, depth, and amazement of a woman.

Being an Empath

We feel everything deeply. We sense peoples energies and emotions as our own. We go so deep that we may not know if it is us or the world. We want to hide when the energies around us overwhelm us. Life seems so big that we question what it is. We have to question life. We have to question emotions, feeling, and energies.

An empath has to take time to be alone to process what they are feeling inside. It is not an easy life to live not knowing if what they feel is them or the outside world.

An Empath Woman

Now, put those two things together and you get crazy. Inside we feel crazy. Like there is something seriously wrong with us. We don’t understand why we feel the weight of the world on our shoulders.

If they both fall at the same time of the month, you can have an explosion of energy and depth. Sometimes too deep for us to handle. It makes you wonder… why do we have so much power that we can’t handle?

We create life and we also feel all the life we create. That can be overwhelming to any person. Woman are made to handle this depth that is why we can go through so much pain during child birth. We are strong, resilient, and loving. We have the power to create something so profound and deep within our bodies, not just physically, but spiritually as well. It is all about learning how to be with the depth and profound within us.

Blessing or Curse

People want to say it is a blessing and a curse. The only way to see it is as a blessing. We may lose friends and have people who don’t understand us, but we have a depth so deep that only few can comprehend. That is a blessing because you won’t find fake, lazy, or shallow people lasting long in our life. We may be alone and we may feel unheard. And IT IS OKAY because we have ourselves. As an Empath, having yourself is the most important thing.

There are many people who lose themselves in search of what we were born with. We are clear on what our path is. We are clear on what our life means to us whether people understand or not. People call us UNSTOPPABLE because nothing can stop us from finding the real, the truth, and the deep.

Being an Empath and a Woman is tough and it is well worth it because you feel and see what no one else can. Breathe through the hard times. Believe during deep times. Be you all the time.

Free Will or Fate

** Spoiler alert! if you haven’t seen the movie don’t read any further**

Ever wonder why certain things happen in life. You meet people who you have an amazing connection with, but nothing happens? It feels as though something keeps you apart time after time. You feel helpless because there is nothing you can do about it. It is like the universe keeps putting obstacles in your way so you can be friends or lovers.

I recently watched The Adjustment Bureau, and it made me think.

Does this really happen in life? Are their people you are destined to be with at one point in your life: then the story changes and you aren’t together anymore, but the connection is there?

About the movie

Matt Damon, the actor that plays the lead character, meets this girl in the bathroom before he gives a speech. They instantly feel a connection. He thinks about her all the time. Damon gets her number and plans to call her. The “adjustment bureau” takes the number away saying he can never see her again.

He ignores this and takes the same bus every day for 3 years, hoping he would run into her again. Out of luck, they meet again. This time he doesn’t want to lose her. He knows that the bureau is out to keep them apart, and fights.

You find out that they were destined to be together in the past. The story changed and she was meant to marry someone else. The connection never ended. They still feel drawn to each other.

Matt Damon can’t deny the connection and does everything he can to fight the bureau. A bureau member helps him, and the girl breaks the story. They wind up living a good life together in the end.

Free Will or Fate

At the end of the movie, one of the men from the adjustment bureau states, “Most people live life on the path we set for them. Too afraid to explore any other. But once in a while people like you come along and knock down all the obstacles we put in your way. People who realize free will is a gift, you’ll never know how to use until you fight for it. I think that’s The Chairman’s real plan. And maybe, one day, we won’t write the plan. You will.”

If we fight hard enough to break the path set for us, can we really have a new plan? Does life really work that way? If there are people who are completely connected, can you really fight hard enough to be with them?

I ABSOLUTELY think this is true. I believe that if you are purely and deeply connected together with someone, you can fight to be with them. It won’t be easy because every obstacle will be put in the way of stopping it from happening.

Yet, it can be done.

That’s where the F*@# YES deeper comes in to play. You have to want it bad enough to change it. We have the power of free will, we don’t know how to use it because society and “the plan” tell us otherwise.

You will have to leave the comfortable.

Go against what you thought you knew,

Change your mindset and your way of living,

And MOST IMORTANTLY, you have to TRUST yourself.

Question life and don’t settle for mediocre.

If you want it, you have to make it happen. No one or thing should tell you that something isn’t real.

What if both people don’t fight?

This is the question I am still trying to figure out.

In the movie, Matt Damon fought with everything he had to make it happen. She didn’t. She also didn’t know what he knew. And in the end, they broke the story created for them and lived together.

It is a movie, and all the movies aren’t necessarily true. Is it possible? It is possible to change YOUR plan if YOU work for it. The other person has to work to change THEIR plan. We all have paths we CAN change with determination and growth. It doesn’t mean that the other person will fall into your new path. It is possible because ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.

Work on you and change your path. See where the new path takes you.  Become the superwoman or man you have always dreamed of becoming. Break free of the cycles and find your own fate. Life the life you choose and see who and where that finds you.

What is connection, anyway?

Connection is the energy between people. When we feel a connection to someone it is the strong similar energy we feel. Energy doesn’t lie. Energy doesn’t disappear. It does transform and becomes something new.

If you change your life, your energy changes. It can transform that connection you had with someone else in ways you never could imagine.

Learn and use your free will to transform the energy. It is there and it is worth fighting for.

Our Planet: Real or CGI?

What it’s about?

I recently watched the Netflix Documentary, Our Planet. It was very informative and spectacular. I learned some things about the planet I didn’t know before. It was definitely well done. They spoke about every part of Our Planet, from the depths of the ocean to the driest of deserts. The documentary talked about the ways we affect different species of animals and the environments in which they live.

Some of the animals are losing their habit due to overfishing and global warming. Since the waters are warmer the glaciers are melting at a faster rate. Since it is hotter periods of rain are not happening as often as they need in certain areas of the world, causing animals to not have access to fresh water. Sharks are being hunted to make shark fin soup. Our biodiversity is not what it used to be.

Is it too real to be true?

As I watched the documentary, I thought to myself… THIS SEEMS TOO PERFECT! So, I googled “Our planet Real.” There are hundreds of articles questioning whether it was real or not. Netflix says “It took four years, planning, and perfect timing to make it happen.”

They had video of fish up close and personal. How did they get that close without scaring the fish away? How did they get a group of dolphins swimming in such a huge pod and they the different shots they had? I would understand if they had one position from above, but how did they get it from below, above, and up close without disrupting the animals in action?

They had a Siberian Tiger. Many shots of the Tiger. They said, “it is a rare occurrence to see them in the wild.” If this is true how did they get such perfect video? I know some of the shots of the Tiger were probably done with hidden cameras, but what are the odds they got that amazing perfect shot? They had a leopard as well. Its coat was so perfect, it looked unreal.

The birds are so up close how did they not fly away?

Can we believe what they say?

It is Netflix we are talking about. They are a big name corporation (that I love), but if they admitted to using CGI, would people trust their documentary? Do you think they would actually tell the truth about whether or no they used CGI, even if it is for one or two small portions?

I would still love the documentary even if it was part CGI. It is a beautiful way to show what Earth is like or could be like if we took care of it. It could be used as an inspiration for us to aspire too. I know, I would love to be on a boat and see a huge pod of dolphins a 100 strong rather than two or three dolphins.

My main point is, can we trust Netflix when they say; they didn’t use CGI at all? Can we just take their word for it? Where is the proof?

In a world of fake news, can we believe everything we see?  Can we believe everything people say?

F*@# Yes…. isn’t enough

I have written two posts on this topic in the past. I am learning a deeper meaning to that because sometimes F*@# yes isn’t enough. (At least for me)

Someone can do everything possible to be with you because you are exactly what they want. You can be a F*@# yes for someone and it is awesome. It does need to be a two-way street. If one person isn’t a fuck yes for the other, it can cause resentment and disappointment.

As you all know, Jonathan was a fuck yes for me, for a long time. Since we took the trip to Nicaragua things have changed. I love him and I care about him, but I need more. I am still a fuck yes for him, and he keeps doing everything he can to win me back. (Yes, we broke up about a month ago.) He is trying to feel energies. He is trying to have deeper conversations with me. And it just feels forced.

The energy I want isn’t there. I don’t feel the connection or understanding that I want. It is possible her could learn; I know that.

However, don’t want to wait because it is not a guaranteed thing to happen. We are still friends so if he accomplishes it I will know.

In the meantime, I need to stay true to myself. I have said this before…. I need to be a fuck yes for my needs and wants. If I did everything I could to make it work and still wasn’t happy with who I was becoming; it’s my responsibility to leave. Taking responsibility for myself is the main priority. I cannot lose myself just because I want something to work.

A F*@# YES isn’t enough for me because I need connection and depth. I need someone who asks questions and doesn’t give up until they find the answer. If I am stuck when I am writing, I want someone who can create a conversation to inspire me to write.

I had the fuck yes with Jonathan, but not the depth I want. Shortly after we got engaged, I wrote an article about taking marriage seriously. I talked about things I wasn’t sure about. With time, I knew the answers would come to me. And they did.

Again, don’t settle for something mediocre. Fight for what you want in every way. Whatever you want, find it. If I never get married because I didn’t find everything, I am okay with that. Just because society tells you what you need or want, doesn’t mean it is true.

Ask questions and find everything you want…. F*@# yes… can be more. Sometimes F*@# Yes isn’t enough.

Guest Post: Kindness

By: Naomi

When I was little, my mum used to give away boxes of biscuits and chocolates that we had been given for Christmas to people that were less fortunate than us. I never understood why, they were gifts for us.

I understand now.

I understand now how important it is to be kind. To give even the smallest of gifts to people. We didn’t need more biscuits, more chocolates… we had all we needed, in fact probably more than we needed. But those people had nothing, or at least very little. The giving of sweet treats wasn’t even about the physical act of giving, it was my mum’s way of saying ‘you are worthy of kindness’, the chocolates and biscuits were just the tip of the iceberg compared to what my parents did for some of those people…

A little bit of background may be good here… when I was growing up, we lived in quite a rough neighbourhood. My parents were (and still are) part of a local church and for a long time, we lived within the church building. It wasn’t your typical ‘church’ – people came to worship, of course, but it was also a community centre with groups and meeting rooms. A lot happened in that building, from a playgroup to an over 60’s keep fit class – and everything in between.

But, back to kindness. My parents helped a lot of people but the one that will always stand out was Bill. Bill was an alcoholic from Scotland, out of the Navy and onto some pretty rough streets in my hometown. He’d turn up, a night here and a night there and my mum would bathe him and dress him in some of my dad’s clothes. She’d give him a hot meal and a bed for the night and then he would be off again, to return a week, a month later…

One night, my mum gave him an ultimatum. My brother and I had grown to know Bill and we knew that he would never do us harm – but nevertheless, we were still two pretty young kids and it was at the time my dad was going away for a week here or there on volunteer work. She told him he could stay and get help, or he had to go.

He stayed.

We had a few happy years with Bill. He slept in a room in the church for a little while and would spend most of his days in our flat within the building. My parents fed him, they got him a new wardrobe, got him signed up for the benefits he was entitled to and in the end found him a bedsit where he would sit at the bay window and watch the birds. We visited him still a few days a week, my dad took him to do his shopping and my mum washed his clothes and had him back to the flat for lunch or dinner or just some company… He became another grandpa.

When he died, we felt as if we had lost a family member. An hour before he passed he asked my dad if I could come to him in the hospice which I did and I laid next to him as he stroked my hair and slipped away.

We loved him. What my parents did could be looked at as kindness, but if you said that to them, they would just say they were doing the only thing they knew. It wasn’t out of some religious zeal, they aren’t like that at all, if was just an outstretched hand, a voice in the darkness saying ’It’s ok, we’ve got you’

And I have grown up not knowing any different. The need to provide for others, to give others what they need can be overwhelming at times. It doesn’t even need to be a physical thing (although present buying is one of my favourite things), it can be just listening to someone, hearing them without judging them, letting them know ’It’s ok, I’ve got you… ‘

Because isn’t that what we all need? To know that even in the darkest times, even when we feel like there is no hope, no possible way out or like the sun will never shine again… don’t we just need no-strings-attached, good, honest kindness?

I think we all do.

Written by Naomi – meditativeowl.wordpress.com

Language Barriers don’t equal perfect relationships.

Everyone tells me you have the perfect relationship because you can’t argue or fight with a language barrier. It gets kind of annoying. Just because there is a language barrier, doesn’t mean we can’t argue or disagree with each other. It still happens. And sometimes it gets to the point where the other person stops trying to be the best person they can be and you leave.

Working on yourself is not an easy task. It’s not easy to look at yourself and be brutely honest. It takes courage, strength, and a lot of self love to stand up for what you need. We can all do, some people only do this to a point. When things get too real or too rough we stop working on ourselves unless we have a bigger fight within us to not stop.

It’s not easy to say I have problems because of my mom and I won’t take that out on you. Saying you need space and to walk away from what doesn’t serve you is hard to do too. I am learning that you can do those things when you have respect for yourself. If you don’t respect yourself how can you walk away from someone that doesn’t treat you the way you need?

This all happens even if there is a language barrier. A language barrier doesn’t stop you from treating someone right. A language barrier doesn’t stop you from feeling emotions and energies from the other person. Sometimes by not being able to speak in the same language, you notice the more important things. You notice when someone stops fighting for themselves or you more noticeable because their words don’t get in the way. They can’t tell you “Oh I am sorry, I love you, it won’t happen again. You are the best in the world. I will show you I mean it.” You have to watch what they do to see how they feel and what they think because the words aren’t understood.

There is more to life than words. There are actions and energies that can tell you more than words can ever say. For all of you out there in a relationship, whether you can communicate or not, know that actions and energies speak louder than words. Respect yourself when those actions are not in line with what you truly need for yourself. No relationship is worth losing yourself over, no matter how great the person is. This goes for men and for women. Men lose themselves to love just like woman do.

Isn’t It Romantic Movie

About the Movie

* Possible spoiler alert*

I recently watched the Netflix Movie “Isn’t It Romantic.” I wasn’t quite sure what to expect. I was not expecting the outcome of the movie at all. The description is as follows “After hitting her head, an architect who hates romantic comedies wakes up to find her unremarkable life has become a dazzling, cliche- driven, rom-com.” It doesn’t give much to go on when you begin watching the movie.

The movie is about a girl, Natalie, who starts out loving rom-coms. Her mom told her that man wouldn’t like a woman like her because she is no Julia Roberts. Fast-forward 25 year later, she lives a life where her dog is dirty, her apartment is small, and she doesn’t have the Julia Roberts looks. She has the potential to be a great architect, and her self love stops her from having the life she wants. Natalie doesn’t even realize her best guy friend, Josh, is in love with her.

Something happens to her on the way home from work and winds up unconscious. She wakes up in an alternative reality that is the perfect romantic comedy. The most handsome man falls for her, her apartment looks like it is straight out of a home decorating magazine, and her workspace is entirely different. Josh falls for another woman that is the perfect model. She realizes she is in her own sort of rom-com and figures she has to do something to wake up from it. At first, Natalie thinks she needs to recreate what happened on the way home from her work the night before as she attempts to do that she gets arrested with no phone. Natalie gets her one phone call, and the only number she has is the handsome man that fell in love with her.

As she goes about living the rom-com life, she thinks she needs to get Josh back. In most romantic comedies that is the case. The girl winds up with the wrong man and has to work to get the right man back. Natalie works to do this because Josh is getting married to another woman. She does everything she can think of to get him back. She even crashes the wedding.

What threw me for me a loop was what she actually needed to do. When she crashed the wedding she realized it wasn’t about Josh, it was about her. She needs to love herself. She needs to believe she is perfect just the way she is. Natalie does that and wakes from her coma. Her work life and love life changed because she loves herself.

What I love about this movie:

I love that this movie is about loving yourself. It’s never about the man or the apartment or the life you don’t have. If you love have self-confidence and self-appreciation you can have whatever you want regardless of what it looks like on the outside. It’s the law of attraction. You attract what you believe and think. This movie is a silly rom-com yet with a different twist about love. Yourself comes first. If you don’t put yourself first, how can you see when someone else truly loves you?

If you haven’t seen the movie, I recommend watching it and seeing a new perspective to love and rom-coms. Let me know what you thought of the film and the impact you think this movie could have on your life or others. I would love to hear your comments.