Tag: asking questions

How You Love me

I am in love with the song “How you love me”. I am in love with it because it is so true. How we love someone can determine how they are with us. Including trying to be perfect.

When I was married many years ago, I tried to be perfect. I tried to do everything I could to make my husband happy. I changed myself. Well, honestly, I didn’t even know myself before so changing myself was the way of life for me. I became a different person, I thought he needed just because I was scared to be lonely. Just because I thought it was what I was supposed to do, please the man. 

Nobody’s perfect, never try.

When I say this I don’t mean don’t try. We want to try and be the best we can, that doesn’t mean we need to be perfect. Noone can be perfect. Everyone has flaws. So, don’t try to be perfect. Try to be better. Be better for yourself. 

I could be the rain in your desert sky. I could be your curse or your angel. It’s how you love me. 

This is absolutely so true. There are people who will bring out the light in us and others that will bring out the darkness in us. If we know our true selves, we will see this with the people around us. We will see who encourages us to be ourselves. 

Recently, I was seeing someone. It was so so at first. I decided to keep giving it a try. I was being me. Asking questions to get to know them and see what kind of person they are. (read this post to know more.) The responses and the type of answers I received I realized how true these words are. 

We can be anyone’s curse or angel. It depends on how we love them. 

You get what you give, that’s a simple truth.

What you give to people, you get back. If you give openness, you get openness. If you give fear and cautious, you will get fear and cautious. It is how it goes. We give off energy and people respond in the same energy (unless they are aware and conscious of themselves).

It happens all around us. There are some instances this doesn’t happen. I have been open and loving towards someone and got hurt in the end. I noticed that happens when I am not confident with myself 100%. We could be happy and free on the outside and inside we are miserable and scared. The people around us will pick up on what we truly feel. 

So, if we give love artificially because we are afraid to lose someone, then we will be met with similar energy. 

This includes ourselves

I am not just talking about other people and relationships around us. I am talking about ourselves too. We can be our own demon or angel, depending on how we love ourselves. We can give ourselves artificial love or deep and authentic love. What we give, we will get back. 

“If you want the best of my heart, you’ve just gotta see the good in me.” 

Lyrics from How you love me 3LAU

That’s the truth with ourselves. If you want the best of yourself you have to see the good in yourself. 

So many times, we hate parts of ourselves. We call ourselves fat or ugly. We want to change our emotions and negative parts. Or we don’t like some part of us and shame it. I know there are many parts of myself that I don’t like and over the years I have grown to love those parts. But, how we love ourselves will be what we get in return. 

Scared to be Lonely

How many of you are scared to be lonely? How many of you go from boyfriend or girlfriend to the next? How many of you feel “worthless” without someone near? 

It happens to a lot of people. Me, included. Society tells us so many times that we need a family or someone to make us happy. We have romantic movies that tell the story of the woman needing a man for help or needing a man to be happy. We have music that is all about love and relationships and being with that perfect someone. There are even love coaches you can hire to help you find your true love (and they make thousands of dollars doing it). 

That is all well and good, but we can’t rely on someone to be with us every day and minute of our lives. Things happen. People have to go away for one reason or another. Sometimes it’s for work and other times it’s for emergencies with family. We need to happy to be alone because we are the only person who is there for us all the time, forever. 

Loving yourself first

My website is all about finding yourself and loving yourself. I want to help you be so confident with yourself whether you are single or not, you won’t be scared to be lonely. When we are afraid to be alone, it means we are afraid to be with our selves. I am building courses and webinars to give you yourself back. To be confident and amazed at how being alone (for long periods of time or short) can really be beneficial for you and the ones you love.

There are so many ways to love being with yourself. It is scary at first, but it is so amazing and rewarding. You have so much power and energy that you light up the room. You don’t care what anyone thinks and if someone doesn’t treat you right or isn’t aligned with your goals, you let them go without thinking twice. 

Scared to be Lonely

One of my favorite songs is called “Scared to be Lonely” by Dua Lipa and Martin Garrix. It is honest and real about what some of us face with being alone. Have a listen…

Some of the lyrics are questions… you know I love questions. They can really get you thinking about the relationship you’re in. Here are a few of my favorites.

  1. Do we need somebody just to feel like we’re alright?
  2. Are we scared to be lonely?
  3. Why do we keep coming back for more?
  4. Is it just our bodies, are we both losing our minds?
  5. Is the only reason you’re holding me tonight is because we’re scared to be lonely?
  6. How can we keep holding on when we know it wrong?

Questions need honest answers

If we want better, we have to answer the questions honestly. I have coached many people on how to have a better life in the last few years. The ones that succeed and achieve a better life are those that answer the questions that arise honestly. It is a struggle even for me to answer questions honestly. I know deep inside I can’t lie to myself because it will get me nowhere. The people who have grown from my coaching have dug deep within to find the strength to be honest with themselves about what and why they do things. 

Answer this honestly

Are you scared to be lonely? Are you with someone or in a situation that doesn’t work for you because you are afraid to be with yourself? Go back and answer some of the questions from the song. It won’t be easy and it will be worth it. Once you figure out the answers, the choices you make will be easier to do. 

It is not easy letting go. It is not easy answering questions honestly because once you’re honest, you have to act accordingly. I struggle with this many times. I know how hard it is to do. I also know how powerful and strong you feel after.

If you need a coach to help you ask questions and help you find the answers, message me. Remember, for my coaching to work you need to be honest with yourself and open to new ideas and ways of life. 

Our Planet: Real or CGI?

What it’s about?

I recently watched the Netflix Documentary, Our Planet. It was very informative and spectacular. I learned some things about the planet I didn’t know before. It was definitely well done. They spoke about every part of Our Planet, from the depths of the ocean to the driest of deserts. The documentary talked about the ways we affect different species of animals and the environments in which they live.

Some of the animals are losing their habit due to overfishing and global warming. Since the waters are warmer the glaciers are melting at a faster rate. Since it is hotter periods of rain are not happening as often as they need in certain areas of the world, causing animals to not have access to fresh water. Sharks are being hunted to make shark fin soup. Our biodiversity is not what it used to be.

Is it too real to be true?

As I watched the documentary, I thought to myself… THIS SEEMS TOO PERFECT! So, I googled “Our planet Real.” There are hundreds of articles questioning whether it was real or not. Netflix says “It took four years, planning, and perfect timing to make it happen.”

They had video of fish up close and personal. How did they get that close without scaring the fish away? How did they get a group of dolphins swimming in such a huge pod and they the different shots they had? I would understand if they had one position from above, but how did they get it from below, above, and up close without disrupting the animals in action?

They had a Siberian Tiger. Many shots of the Tiger. They said, “it is a rare occurrence to see them in the wild.” If this is true how did they get such perfect video? I know some of the shots of the Tiger were probably done with hidden cameras, but what are the odds they got that amazing perfect shot? They had a leopard as well. Its coat was so perfect, it looked unreal.

The birds are so up close how did they not fly away?

Can we believe what they say?

It is Netflix we are talking about. They are a big name corporation (that I love), but if they admitted to using CGI, would people trust their documentary? Do you think they would actually tell the truth about whether or no they used CGI, even if it is for one or two small portions?

I would still love the documentary even if it was part CGI. It is a beautiful way to show what Earth is like or could be like if we took care of it. It could be used as an inspiration for us to aspire too. I know, I would love to be on a boat and see a huge pod of dolphins a 100 strong rather than two or three dolphins.

My main point is, can we trust Netflix when they say; they didn’t use CGI at all? Can we just take their word for it? Where is the proof?

In a world of fake news, can we believe everything we see?  Can we believe everything people say?