I am in love with the song “How you love me”. I am in love with it because it is so true. How we love someone can determine how they are with us. Including trying to be perfect.
When I was married many years ago, I tried to be perfect. I tried to do everything I could to make my husband happy. I changed myself. Well, honestly, I didn’t even know myself before so changing myself was the way of life for me. I became a different person, I thought he needed just because I was scared to be lonely. Just because I thought it was what I was supposed to do, please the man.
Nobody’s perfect, never try.
When I say this I don’t mean don’t try. We want to try and be the best we can, that doesn’t mean we need to be perfect. Noone can be perfect. Everyone has flaws. So, don’t try to be perfect. Try to be better. Be better for yourself.
I could be the rain in your desert sky. I could be your curse or your angel. It’s how you love me.
This is absolutely so true. There are people who will bring out the light in us and others that will bring out the darkness in us. If we know our true selves, we will see this with the people around us. We will see who encourages us to be ourselves.
Recently, I was seeing someone. It was so so at first. I decided to keep giving it a try. I was being me. Asking questions to get to know them and see what kind of person they are. (read this post to know more.) The responses and the type of answers I received I realized how true these words are.
We can be anyone’s curse or angel. It depends on how we love them.
You get what you give, that’s a simple truth.
What you give to people, you get back. If you give openness, you get openness. If you give fear and cautious, you will get fear and cautious. It is how it goes. We give off energy and people respond in the same energy (unless they are aware and conscious of themselves).
It happens all around us. There are some instances this doesn’t happen. I have been open and loving towards someone and got hurt in the end. I noticed that happens when I am not confident with myself 100%. We could be happy and free on the outside and inside we are miserable and scared. The people around us will pick up on what we truly feel.
So, if we give love artificially because we are afraid to lose someone, then we will be met with similar energy.
This includes ourselves
I am not just talking about other people and relationships around us. I am talking about ourselves too. We can be our own demon or angel, depending on how we love ourselves. We can give ourselves artificial love or deep and authentic love. What we give, we will get back.
“If you want the best of my heart, you’ve just gotta see the good in me.”Lyrics from How you love me 3LAU
That’s the truth with ourselves. If you want the best of yourself you have to see the good in yourself.
So many times, we hate parts of ourselves. We call ourselves fat or ugly. We want to change our emotions and negative parts. Or we don’t like some part of us and shame it. I know there are many parts of myself that I don’t like and over the years I have grown to love those parts. But, how we love ourselves will be what we get in return.