Tag: experiences

What am I not doing to make my blog better? And what it means for you.

One of the things I do with this blog is to be honest with my life. I do my best not to sugarcoat the experiences that I go through when sharing them with you. I want to be honest because honesty is key in this life. Being honest not only with you all but with myself too. I recently wrote a blog post with 27 questions for self-discovery (If you subscribe to my website you get this). As I was writing, I asked and answered those questions for myself, again. Some answers were the same as the past, and some changed. These questions led me to ask more questions like what can I do to make my blog better? What am I not doing to make my blog better?

I responded to the last question because I thought it was the most important. I was not listening to the advice that many other bloggers had given me in many ways. Here were the top 3…

1. There isn’t consistency between the blog and my social media. My color scheme and layouts are all over the place. It seems like a chaotic mess. I like so many styles it is hard to narrow it down to just one.

2. I don’t have a content marketing strategy. Well, I have a strategy. It is to just do what I feel I need to do. Which really isn’t the best strategy. I need a more concrete strategy in writing that I can follow and implement.

3. I don’t believe in myself or what I am doing. This one is the most difficult one for me. This is the part that is not easy for me to be honest about. This is the one that stops me in my tracks. Let me explain…

From my past posts, most of you know that I struggled with many situations as a child. These situations have made me the strong, loving, and courageous woman I am today. One the other hand, it has given me some doubts, insecurities, and fear. I know that I can inspire people with my writing and experiences. I have seen it happen with family and friends. I know that I can make an impact on the women and the world by overcoming my insecurities and sharing my strengths. If I didn’t think I could really do this I would not have continued to write for as long as I have. I would have given up long ago.

So why do I feel like I do not believe in myself or what I am doing?

I feel that I am good enough to be an influencer on this world. I feel that everyone has left me at some point in my life, which isn’t really true. They just weren’t there emotionally for me. This is something that has taken me a long time to understand and i am still understanding how this affects my life. It affects relationships, my work, and my self esteem, among other things. It’s not easy to overcome and it takes a lot of internal processing and understanding. There are many other people who feel the same because of things that have happened in their past. I know that if i work hard to transmute this into something bigger, it would be a life changer. I know I CAN DO THIS! It is just something I feel. And as i have learned over the years, not everything we feel is the truth.

How have I begun to overcome this?

I have taken personal development classes. I have read books. I attended IHP for 4 years. I have come a long way with understanding the feeling of not being enough. Opening my mind to different ways of living and thinking has been a huge part of this journey. I do this by asking myself questions and digging deep for the honest answer. Once I get to the answer, I do my best to find a new way of being with the issue. For my blog, I have been pushing myself to keep writing and putting the best energy I possibly can out into the world. Even when something tries to stop me, I remember that nothing worth living for is easy. I find a way to overcome it. When I switched the blog around I ran into problems (I still am running into problems), I dug deep to find the courage to make it happen despite the trouble. This helped me have confidence that I can learn and grow if I want it bad enough.

Nothing in this world comes easy. If even it looks easys when others do it, it’s not. They had some struggle (that no one saw) to get to where they are. Part of the blog is to share that struggle and to show you that even with the struggle there is hope and amazement on the other side of it.

What does this mean for you as a reader?

I do struggle with feeling not good enough. I seem to contradict myself with some posts. I am still learning and growing as a person. One day I may see a different point of view to something than I did the day before. I think that is why I don’t have consistency within my website and social media. I want you to know I am looking for a coach that could help me understand myself on a deeper level as well as help me get the blog to a more cohesive place. I am on a journey of self-discovery. It is not clear, cut, and dry. It is messy, difficult, and scary. As I begin to understand, aspects of my life will begin to be more harmonious and tranquil.

I hope that you as a reader becomes motivated, stronger, and inspired by the journey of my life. I wish that you are encouraged to reach your dreams, as I begin to reach mine. I am working on different ideas for courses, ebooks, and printables that can support you in your journey of life. (stay tuned) I love all my readers and followers. I am happy and thrilled to gain many more. Thank you for inspiring me to better myself and my life!

Small Talk and Empaths

Small talk is a polite conversation that doesn’t use deep or controversial topics. We generally use this type of conversation when we first meet people. You might use it on the bus with people next to you or for a first date. Small talk can be asking about the weather or what the person is doing today. There is no real substance to the conversation. It’s mainly about observations.

Person A- “What do you think about this weather?”

Person B- “It is really windy. So, the dusty is flying everywhere”

An empath is a person that can feel and experience different energies around them mainly from other people. Empaths are very deep. They are able to feel emotions, energies, and sometimes physical symptoms from other and things. It makes being out in the world hard because they take on everything around them.

What do Empaths and Small Talk have to do with each other?

Since Empaths are deep people it makes having small talk difficult for them. Empaths want to talk about real situations within the world. They want to talk about the experiences affecting them or others around them. Small talk is a very shallow type of conversation and because of this Empaths HATE it. It is difficult for an Empath to feel sadness or anger from another person and talk about the weather. It feels fake and uncomfortable to talk about something so trivial as the weather when there are deeper issues or conversations that could be talked about.

How can hating small talk can affect an Empath?

Empaths hate and/or have trouble with small talk. This can cause Empaths to be isolated. They want to connect on a deeper level. Since most people don’t want to go as deep as an Empath, it makes it hard for them to have friends. Small talk is essential to having friends. If someone can’t have small talk it makes it very difficult to keep people around.  

Small talk feels fake to Empaths. This shows when having conversations with people. Even though people don’t have deep conversations, they can feel when a person is being fake. This comes across like the Empath is lying or hiding something. In reality, they are. They are hiding their real intentions of wanting to have a deep conversation about life or emotions. In order to have small talk, an Empath needs to have a conversation they don’t feel is true. Again, causing people to pull away.

Can an Empath have a lot of friends without small talk?

I am not sure. Since I am just learning what it’s like being an empath, it’s hard for me to say. I don’t have many friends. I seem to rotate between being alone and having friends. The small talk is what I have the most trouble with as an Empath. I hope to find this answer out as I learn what it’s like living as a deep and emotional person that feels everything.