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Small Talk and Empaths

Small talk is a polite conversation that doesn’t use deep or controversial topics. We generally use this type of conversation when we first meet people. You might use it on the bus with people next to you or for a first date. Small talk can be asking about the weather or what the person is doing today. There is no real substance to the conversation. It’s mainly about observations.

Person A- “What do you think about this weather?”

Person B- “It is really windy. So, the dusty is flying everywhere”

An empath is a person that can feel and experience different energies around them mainly from other people. Empaths are very deep. They are able to feel emotions, energies, and sometimes physical symptoms from other and things. It makes being out in the world hard because they take on everything around them.

What do Empaths and Small Talk have to do with each other?

Since Empaths are deep people it makes having small talk difficult for them. Empaths want to talk about real situations within the world. They want to talk about the experiences affecting them or others around them. Small talk is a very shallow type of conversation and because of this Empaths HATE it. It is difficult for an Empath to feel sadness or anger from another person and talk about the weather. It feels fake and uncomfortable to talk about something so trivial as the weather when there are deeper issues or conversations that could be talked about.

How can hating small talk can affect an Empath?

Empaths hate and/or have trouble with small talk. This can cause Empaths to be isolated. They want to connect on a deeper level. Since most people don’t want to go as deep as an Empath, it makes it hard for them to have friends. Small talk is essential to having friends. If someone can’t have small talk it makes it very difficult to keep people around.  

Small talk feels fake to Empaths. This shows when having conversations with people. Even though people don’t have deep conversations, they can feel when a person is being fake. This comes across like the Empath is lying or hiding something. In reality, they are. They are hiding their real intentions of wanting to have a deep conversation about life or emotions. In order to have small talk, an Empath needs to have a conversation they don’t feel is true. Again, causing people to pull away.

Can an Empath have a lot of friends without small talk?

I am not sure. Since I am just learning what it’s like being an empath, it’s hard for me to say. I don’t have many friends. I seem to rotate between being alone and having friends. The small talk is what I have the most trouble with as an Empath. I hope to find this answer out as I learn what it’s like living as a deep and emotional person that feels everything.