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Beautiful People and Core Values

I recently heard the song beautiful people by Ed Sheeran. It got me thinking about who I might become if I pursue my coaching business. I am good at helping people find their inner selves. I have seen friends’ and family member’s lives change because of the work I have done with them. I am confident. I am successful in coaching. I bring my core values into my life in every way.

The song insinuates that Beautiful people are people who pop champagne bottles or drive Lamborghinis. Beautiful people are people who sit in the front row of fashion shows or have prenups and broken homes. And that they don’t want to be beautiful people. They aren’t beautiful, it’s not who they are.

I was thinking, would that become me? Would I be the person popping champagne bottles and all glammed up with makeup and the finest of things? Who would I become when I make it in my new career? 

I love the song, but I think we are all beautiful people. Even without the extravagant lifestyle and fancy things, we are all beautiful people. So we already are beautiful people. 

It leads me to keep thinking about the questions I have and how it could benefit you.

Have you ever wanted to switch careers, but were afraid too because you weren’t sure who you’d become?

Have you ever been afraid to make more money because that could bring more fame, more opportunities, and more success?

As I begin my self-love coaching career, I have those fears. I see so many life coaches on Instagram that have these extravagant lifestyles. I have personally seen people change before my eyes because of money. 

It is scary to watch because I want to stay the same humble, thrifty, and the true person I am. It is normal to fear change and what could happen. We all have fears about the unknown. The truth is we will change. We will become someone new. 

We will change

We do have control over that person we become if we stay conscious and aware during the process. When we have our core values deeply ingrained in our being, we will be able to remember and see if who we are becoming is in-line with that. 

If your core values are to be humble and give back to society. If this value is deep within you, as you continue to grow more financially independent you will give back in the ways that align with your core standards. You will continue to do what you already do, just on a bigger scale. 

Some people put a high value on appearances and lifestyles, so when they gain more money they will do this on a bigger scale than they did before. That is okay because that is what they align with. Everyone has the need to look good and have a nice lifestyle, which is great, but we have control over how much we power we put on those needs. 

Our core values dictate how we live our lives no matter who successful or poor we are. As I work on my coaching program I am figuring out what my core values are so that I can stay true to them in my career and life.

Change is good

Change brings a new way of living. It reminds you that you are alive. We can truly live our best life as we grow into our true selves. The only way to achieve that is to grow and change. Learning what our core values are and how we can live our lives according to those values is the best way to know that we will become the person we truly are. There won’t be the fear that you will become someone different, that you don’t like if you know your core values deeply.

Stay tuned for my course in finding your core values. It is geared toward helping you determine what are the most important values in your life.

When life gets you down, what do you do?

Give up, feel pitty? 

NO WAY! I keep fighting and I keep trying even if I get knocked down.

The last few months have been tough. I know you guys don’t know everything, but switching jobs has been tough. I haven’t been making the money I need to make to survive. I am making it happen because of some support from friends and family. 

I know my worth and won’t settle for less when it comes to which company I work for to teach English. I love teaching with Open English because I always have classes when I work. The problem is they don’t pay much. I also work for VIPKid, but it has been slow to gain students. I have been looking for other companies like VIPKid, but haven’t found the perfect one. 

Am I letting this stop me from living my best life? 

HELL NO!! I am doing everything I can to make it work. I am unstoppable. I’m not letting this stop me. I am fighting and I am so pumped for what happens in the future. I know my life is getting better because the struggle is real.

I have been interviewing with as many companies to find the perfect one. I also scored a job with an amazing girl here in Costa Rica. I’m helping her with her blog and learning along the way. I took over managing a facebook group which has been an amazing experience. Even though I am not making money I am gaining so much self-confidence and experience that it is well worth it! 

The Universe knows all!

In the last few weeks, I have been thinking about moving. I live farther from the beach so I don’t take as many photos of the sunsets for the blog. I don’t have as many beautiful places in my house to showcase for my blog. I miss the beach. I miss the town of Brasilito. I knew everyone and everyone knew me. At my place now, I don’t know anyone. It’s not a community. Even though I am an introvert, I can learn so much from being around people. I miss the connection I had in my old town.

Yesterday, it all started. I went to a swap meet for the facebook group I now run. I ran into a lady who lives in Brasilito. Her apartment complex has some openings. It would be 2 minutes from the beach, a hotel with a pool I can use 100 meters away, and it has plenty of space for Nina to run. I went to check out her place and fell in love. The only problem is she doesn’t allow pets.

Today, my landlord tells me I owe him $180 for electricity. I already pay him $60 so it’s so much more. I can’t afford that. And IT IS OUTRAGEOUS!! In my old apartment, I never paid over $100 for electricity and the room was smaller. I am feeling like it is all happening because it’s meant to be for me to move. 

The only thing standing in the way is the apartment I want may not let me live there because of Nina. I am going to talk to her tomorrow, hopefully, I can convince her to let us move in. If it doesn’t happen, I know the universe has a plan.

“Love is everything”

As I sit here typing, I am watching soul surfer. It is the story of Bethany Hamilton. The girl who lost her arm to a shark attack while surfing. She beat all odds to get back out there to surf. She hit some big waves, and she overcame them all. 

In the movie, she said love and compassion were what helped her through. While she was in Thailand helping the people recover after the massive tsunami, she realized that it’s not about surfing, it’s about love. She allowed herself to love herself again even though she wasn’t “whole”.

She inspired so many people with her attempt to get back out on the waves. She lost and she got beat down, but she tried. It is all about love and trying. In the movie, Bethany stated that she would never change what happened to her because she has more love now than she ever could with two arms. 

The more you overcome your difficulties, the more love you have for yourself. You see how strong you are and you see what you are capable of accomplishing. 

Change isn’t easy, but it’s worth it.

I am scared about moving houses. I also know that moving houses is the best thing for me and my career. In the last month, I have conquered so many fears. I am staying calm and looking forward to the future. I have realized that even though I am an empath and an introvert, I can have the relationships I desire to have. 

Change is hard, and it is what can bring you a life-changing event. So, what are you afraid to do because you think you’re not good enough or capable enough? I can tell you from experience that none of that is true. You are GOOD ENOUGH and CAPABLE ENOUGH to have whatever you want in life. You have to work for it. You have to feel uncomfortable and do what no one else would do. 

I promise a short time of being uncomfortable will change your entire future. Feeling uncomfortable is temporary if you learn, grow, fight, and never give up. 

Go after your dreams. Make a statement. Live your best life. Be free!

Write a Bucket List: Live Your Best Life

Everyone has a list of things they want to accomplish in their life. I know I do. Having a bucket list is great for personal development. When we think of personal development, we think of overcoming fears or changing our way of being. Which is a lot of work and not necessarily fun.

It doesn’t always have to be full of work. We can make personal development fun and exciting. Live your best life.

When a person is working on themselves they are working to become a better person than they were the day before. Your bucket list can help you do that too. I have crossed off so many things from my list. Each time I did so, I grew in some way or another. I think of the things I want to achieve as an adventure that is waiting to happen.

Over the last 10 years, I have done so have so many amazing adventures while completing my bucket list. I have done things I never thought I could. It has been wonderful. Some I shared with friends and family. Others I did alone. It didn’t matter who I did it with, I still learned something valuable.

Items from my Bucket list I have completed.

Skydiving:

When I turned 18 my dad and I went skydiving together. It was spectacular! I am afraid of heights so falling from a plane at that height was terrifying for me. Once I was in the plane, things were completely different. I felt free and open. It was beautiful and jaw dropping. The experience can ONLY be understood when you do it.

Getting Tattoos:

I have two tattoos. One I knew I wanted for a few years before I got it. A friend of mine had drawn me a picture of a fairy sitting on a moon. The minute she happened it to me, I knew I was the symbol I wanted to use to remember my Memom. So, as soon as I turned 18 I got it done.

The second was done last year. I wrote a blog about it after I did it. You can read about it here. It was pretty unexpected. I knew I wanted another tattoo, but I didn’t know when or where. Then one day, I just did it. And I ABSOLUTELY love it!

Living Abroad:

You can ask anyone. When I was younger, I talked about living in another country. For years, I thought it was living in Africa helping the children their. Then I took a trip there for two weeks and changed my mind. It is an amazing country, but taking Maleria pills every day and having to worry about what I could or couldn’t do was too much for me long term.

So, where did I move? COSTA RICA. Moving here 2 years ago has been a complete game changer. It has been filled with so many perfect memories and life-changing events. I grow more and more every day. I am learning a new language and making new friends. It has been better than I ever expected it to be. I am living my best life.

Create a way to share with the world:

I created my blog to share what I am learning with the world. I use the blog to motivate and encourage others to live outside their comfort zone and become the best version of themselves. It is a fantastic experience that I look forward to doing every day. I am learning to write better everyday, finding new ways to influence people around me.

Scuba Dive:

I have always wanted to experience life under the sea. The best way to do this was to go scuba diving. I thought you needed certification to do this (it costs around $600), so I never did it. When I moved to Costa Rica, I learned that you could do a discovery dive without the certification. It was such an insane experience! It showed me so much about breathing and being with myself. You can read about it here.

My bucket list is ever changing, always adding new things. Here is my Bucket list as of today and why!

Visit Egypt.

In Egypt, there is so much history as to where spirituality started (Hermetic Philosophy). It is a place full of wonder and curiosity. I want to go to feel the energy and understand more about the culture and history behind the pyramids.

Spend 1-2 Months in Thailand.

There are so many spiritual retreats and meditation centers in Thailand. I want to go and spend some time learning from the people their. Visiting a different culture is great for opening the mind and understanding things in a new way.

Go on a 2-3 month Cruise.

I have never been on a cruise, but a friend of mine is on an epic adventure on a 3 month cruise through different countries. I want to be able to create lasting friendships with fellow travelers as well as meet new people around the world. What better way than on a cruise?

Publish a Book about my life.

This one is in the works. It will take some time to cultivate and produce. I have lots of different stories and events that I want to share with the world. Figuring out how to write it the best way possible is a little tricky.

Create an online coaching business where I can help others find their inner superwoman (or superman).

This is slowly but surely happening. I have to create content and build up my following. I am most excited about this one. I want others to have a life worth living instead of hiding. Each day, I am creating new and exciting things for my blog, so that I can reach this goal within the next 3-4 years.

What is your bucket list?

Take some time to write a bucket list. What types of things would you put on there? Travel? Conferences? Opening a business? Experiences? Which ones have you completed in the past? And how did they change you? Remember, live your best life.

Personal Development: Seven Principles of Hermeticism

A beach wtih clear and blue water. people swimming, a boat, and a person walking in the waves on shore.

Personal Development is a long term process of becoming a better person than you were the day before. It takes a lifetime of work, practice, dedication, and growth. Working on oneself isn’t easy. It takes a strong and determined person to overcome fears, difficulties, and live a happy life. Even when you feel like you failed you still need the strength and perseverance to keep going.

I once took a course at Landmark. They told me “There is nothing wrong with you, shit is just in the way.” That stuck with me. We are all perfect beings with crap in the way. Personal development is a way to get rid of that shit. Some people are so deep in their shit (ego) that they can’t see a way out. I find that when this is the case, it takes a lot of willpower and determination to dig deep and clean yourself of all the stuff holding you back. Some people prefer to sit in their stuff because it is easier or some other reason only they know. It is okay because not everyone is meant to evolve into a higher state of consciousness.

Seven Principles of Hermeticism

To understand this deeper, we need to understand the 7 principles of Hermeticism. I attended a school for Hermetic Philosophy for a few years. (I hope to return again soon.) The school opened my eyes to the beginning of why things are the way they are. I have so much more to learn, but what I have learned I want to share with you.

You can read about where Hermeticism started in The Kybalion. Not only does the book tell you the origin, but it also goes into detail the 7 Principles. It is a really good read.

I want to briefly take you through the 7 Principles of Hermeticism. Understanding these are the beginning. At least, they were for me. There are some principles that I understand more than others. I still don’t fully grasp any of them. To fully understand these principles takes time, experience, and comprehension. Since I am not a master, there is more to be understood and learned.

Principle One: Mentalism

“All is mind.” —The Kybalion.

Everything is mental, whether it is energy, power, or matter. It all begins in the mind. In order to master life, you have to master your mental state. Elevate your energy to a higher way of thinking. Everything that happens in your conscious and unconscious mind affects what is around you. This explains why some people have things and others do not. I know for me mentally, I do not attract wealth in terms of money because of my mental thoughts. The more I work towards transmuting my mental thoughts the more I receive in the areas I lack.

Principle Two: Correspondence

“As above, so below; as below, so above.”—The Kybalion.

This principle is one of the most important. It can help you understand that there are different levels of truth and that the Universe is grander than we imagine. There is an unknown part of life that we have yet to see. The principle of correspondence shows us that what is above, so below and what is below, so above. So what is here on earth, there is in another plane in the Universe.

What we do affects the other planes and vis versa. This is one of the principles that I struggle to understand deeply. It goes much deeper than my current understanding. And because I have such little understanding of this, I don’t want to elaborate more.

Principle Three: Vibration

“Nothing rests; everything moves; everything vibrates.”—The Kybalion.

Everything has vibrations, whether it be a low or high vibration. The universe vibrations, animals and things vibrate. Some at a higher level and some at a lower level. What we eat has a vibration, so when we consume food we take on that vibration. Same with smoking and drinking. Ever notice that after a night of drinking you feel low and depressed? That is because your vibration was lowered by the alcohol. There are people who are more sensitive to vibrations and energies than others. This allows some people to perceive how things feel more deeply.

There are certain foods I can not eat or need to eat in small quantities. There are certain places I can only go for short periods of time. Certain people who make me want to run the other way. Of course, there are higher vibrating people, places, and things as well. All of which I can be felt if the person is conscious of the energies around them

Principle Four: Polarity

“Everything is Dual; everything has poles; everything has its pair of opposites; like and unlike are the same; opposites are identical in nature, but different in degree; extremes meet; all truths are but half‑truths; all paradoxes may be reconciled.”—The Kybalion.

The statement above describes polarity perfectly. Everything has an opposite. Death and Life. Happy and Sad. Up and Down. You can’t have one without the other. This allows us to see the truths. We couldn’t understand happiness without pain and sadness. We couldn’t understand love without hate. Life without Death.

Principle Five: Rhythm

“Everything flows, out and in; everything has its tides; all things rise and fall; the pendulum‑swing manifests in everything; the measure of the swing to the right is the measure of the swing to the left; rhythm compensates.”—The Kybalion.

The pendulum is always swinging from left to right. We can move up the pendulum so that we aren’t as affected by it’s sway. Eventually being above it, looking down not affected at all. Same with the changing of the tides. We could be in the ocean on a huge boat where we are less affected by the tides or a smaller boat being affected more. Eventually, being on the shore just watching the tides change.

When we move to the left, there is always a reaction to move us to the right. Same with the changing of the tides. Rhythm is always moving and ever-changing. Think of a woman’s monthly cycle. It is always moving from creating new to getting rid of the old. It is the rhythm of life.

Principle Six: Cause and Effect

“Every Cause has its Effect; every Effect has its Cause; everything happens according to Law; Chance is but a name for Law not 16 recognized; there are many planes of causation, but nothing escapes the Law.”—The Kybalion.

This is something we all learned in school. You do something and something happens. You throw a stone and the water moves. The cause is the stone being thrown. The effect is water moving. It happens in everything. You change your mindset and something pushes back on you. You do something good (expecting nothing in return) and something good comes back to you. What we do on this plane of existence, affects another plane of existence. The Universe is connected to all, so our energies around things affect the universe.

Principle Seven: Gender

“Gender is in everything; everything has its Masculine and Feminine Principles; Gender manifests on all planes.”—The Kybalion.

This is one of the principles that I don’t have a deep understanding of. I know that things have a feminine and masculine portion to them. I know that in the physical world it is what we call our “sex”. I know on other planes in the Universe it doesn’t have a form. That is really all I understand. So I don’t want to go into more detail.  

Hermetic Books

If you want to learn more, there are a few books written on hermeticism available today. You can also reach out to The Institute for Hermetic Philosophy. The Institute has schools in NYC, Chile, Venezuela, and Russia to name a few. The NYC branch has monthly seminars you can attend without becoming a member. If you are interested, I recommend attending the seminars and reading the books to make sure it is something for you.

If you are interested in reading more about Hermeticism, these are the top 3 books to read.

The Kybalion

The Secret Science

The Stellar Man