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Self-love isn’t all roses and sunshine

Self-love is not always beautiful baths and mani/pedis. It isn’t always roses and sunshine. We take our selves on dates and get our nails done, but sometimes it’s about dressing up and showing up in all aspects of your life even when life is tough. 

Cloudy skies make for amazing love.

There are so many times where we are in the dumps because we lost our job or a family member died. It will be hard to love yourself. It will be hard to get out of bed and make life happen. 

When you are struggling because of a death, or depression, or any other tough situation, this is the most important time to show up for yourself. It is the best and most important time to love yourself. Not everyone can be there to helps us out of our funks, so we have to be there for us. We have to be there for ourselves because we have us all day every day forever, so give yourself the love you need.

Self-love is cooking yourself a good meal instead of eating fast food. 

Taking care of our bodies and making sure we are eating healthy meals is the best way to help us deal with whatever hardships we are dealing with. It gives us more power and energy to cry, scream, and feel the emotions we need to feel.

Self-love is getting out of bed even if we feel as though we have a boulder on our chests.

Getting out of bed is a huge step when we feel so down and upset. It is a huge accomplishment to wake up on time to show up for our lives. This can be a huge power struggle because when we are struggling we feel we need sleep. Our bodies use so much energy to deal with death or depression it is important to get sleep, but it is also just as important to get out of bed and do what we need.

Self-love is creating a life that you don’t need a break from.

Self-love is making choices in our lives that allow us to be free from drama and stress. It is about living the “vacation life” all the time. I don’t really mean living on vacation… What I am trying to say is that we need to live our best lives. Since I am not the best with my words on this topic I will use an example from my life. 

An example from my life would be living in Costa Rica. I live in paradise yet I am not on vacation all the time. I still go to work. I still make a living and I still hustle. I am not waiting for my next vacation to have a break. I have time during the week to take time for myself. I don’t work a stressful job that keeps being on my toes all the time. 

This can be done no matter where you live as long as you set your life up that way. Get rid of things and people that are no longer working for you.

Self-love is looking at your life honestly and moving forward.

Looking at your life honestly in all areas. When you are honest about your failures and disappointments and start to move forward is self-love. It is just so important to see our failures and loving ourselves whole-heartedly and making the best of it. That is how grow and love happens. When a friend makes a mistake, we forgive and move forward. We should do the same with ourselves. 

Self-love is being who you truly are meant to be.

We tend to look at other’s lives and want to model what they do and who they are. We should live our lives as our own. We should be who we truly are. If we are introverts, we should be that. Do our bests to live our lives the way we are supposed to live, not living it how someone else wants us to live. 

Give yourself love.

Give yourself the love you deserve, every day even when times are tough. Make it a habit of loving yourself. The more you do it the easier it gets. It is so important to be there for you no matter how hard it is. Your life is worth it. YOU ARE WORTH IT! YOU ARE LOVEABLE!

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The Revolving Boyfriend

I was having a conversation with a friend the other day. She lives in Peru and is having a hard time because everyone is in love and she is “alone”. She has a fear that she will never find that one person. I understand her fear because it is something that has come across my mind many times. 

She and I are both in our 30s. Most people we know are married and have a family already. Everywhere you look there are people, movies, and commercials telling you that you need to fulfill certain things to be considered successful in life. 

Over the last few years, I have come to terms with not getting married or finding that perfect person that I would spend my life with. It wasn’t easy to do because of so many people saying “you need kids, you need to be married, and you need a family of your own.” 

I mean there are coaches that help you find the love of your life that make millions of dollars finding people that special someone. For me, I want to help people find themselves and be whatever they are supposed to be. I think the world would be a better place if we focused on finding self-love instead of finding someone to love us. 

The Revolving Boyfriends

As I was figuring out myself, I coined the term “the revolving boyfriends”. It is when your life’s purpose is to better society and making a difference one boyfriend at a time. As women, we are life. We grow and create new life within our bodies to have babies. Why can’t we change the world by creating a different kind of life within our womb? 

Men don’t have a womb to create life, as women can. We create life then inspire the change through the men. So, if I am stuck with one man my entire life how can I make an impact on society like I am supposed to? your probably thinking of having guy friends, which is possible. But… sometimes you don’t get the intimacy you need by being “just friends”. So this brings me to… Well, revolving boyfriends!

A revolving boyfriend could be in my life (or yours) for a short time or a long time. It depends on what you and the man need to learn from the relationship. If you learn quickly then it may be a short relationship. It could be longer if there is deeper work to be done. 

It doesn’t mean you are less worthy

Just because you have revolving boyfriends doesn’t mean that you less of a woman. It doesn’t mean you are not special or worthy of love. It means you have a higher power that will change the world and make a difference in the lives of every man (or woman) you date. It doesn’t mean that you aren’t good enough or stable enough for that one love. It means you are worth more than just ONE LOVE! You have so much love you can spread it out and make a bigger impact on the world.

It doesn’t mean you are meant to fix them. We aren’t here to fix men (or women), we are here to grow more aware and conscious within ourselves. We are here to experience life in a new way. A way that isn’t told to us by society or commercials.

The world may say that you need that perfect man to be whole. I promise you there are more ways to feel whole than having the perfect man, marriage, or baby. Personally, I know this is true because I feel whole with or without a man. I live my best life and I live it with integrity, faith, and love. You can feel whole within yourself by being your real self. Feeling whole can come from volunteering or learning to love unconditionally. It can come from loving yourself so much that you follow your dreams even if they aren’t what society tells you is correct.

To change the world, we need to change the way we see the world.

The world is broken. It is full of greed, hate, fear, and anger. That is why we have so many wars and devastation. If you want to see the world be full of faith, love, and integrity, then we need to change the way we live it. 

This starts with seeing marriage, babies, and ourselves differently. That is why I am creating content that focuses on self-love and testing the boundaries with the way I live. 

We will all suffer if we chase after things that are not meant for us. I am not meant for getting married or having a child. I am meant for something BIGGER and more GRAND

It is okay if no one understands this except you. There are others out there like me and my friend that meant for the life of revolving boyfriends and manifesting a new way of living. 

Don’t be afraid… EMBRACE IT!