Tag: love your life

Self-love isn’t all roses and sunshine

Self-love is not always beautiful baths and mani/pedis. It isn’t always roses and sunshine. We take our selves on dates and get our nails done, but sometimes it’s about dressing up and showing up in all aspects of your life even when life is tough. 

Cloudy skies make for amazing love.

There are so many times where we are in the dumps because we lost our job or a family member died. It will be hard to love yourself. It will be hard to get out of bed and make life happen. 

When you are struggling because of a death, or depression, or any other tough situation, this is the most important time to show up for yourself. It is the best and most important time to love yourself. Not everyone can be there to helps us out of our funks, so we have to be there for us. We have to be there for ourselves because we have us all day every day forever, so give yourself the love you need.

Self-love is cooking yourself a good meal instead of eating fast food. 

Taking care of our bodies and making sure we are eating healthy meals is the best way to help us deal with whatever hardships we are dealing with. It gives us more power and energy to cry, scream, and feel the emotions we need to feel.

Self-love is getting out of bed even if we feel as though we have a boulder on our chests.

Getting out of bed is a huge step when we feel so down and upset. It is a huge accomplishment to wake up on time to show up for our lives. This can be a huge power struggle because when we are struggling we feel we need sleep. Our bodies use so much energy to deal with death or depression it is important to get sleep, but it is also just as important to get out of bed and do what we need.

Self-love is creating a life that you don’t need a break from.

Self-love is making choices in our lives that allow us to be free from drama and stress. It is about living the “vacation life” all the time. I don’t really mean living on vacation… What I am trying to say is that we need to live our best lives. Since I am not the best with my words on this topic I will use an example from my life. 

An example from my life would be living in Costa Rica. I live in paradise yet I am not on vacation all the time. I still go to work. I still make a living and I still hustle. I am not waiting for my next vacation to have a break. I have time during the week to take time for myself. I don’t work a stressful job that keeps being on my toes all the time. 

This can be done no matter where you live as long as you set your life up that way. Get rid of things and people that are no longer working for you.

Self-love is looking at your life honestly and moving forward.

Looking at your life honestly in all areas. When you are honest about your failures and disappointments and start to move forward is self-love. It is just so important to see our failures and loving ourselves whole-heartedly and making the best of it. That is how grow and love happens. When a friend makes a mistake, we forgive and move forward. We should do the same with ourselves. 

Self-love is being who you truly are meant to be.

We tend to look at other’s lives and want to model what they do and who they are. We should live our lives as our own. We should be who we truly are. If we are introverts, we should be that. Do our bests to live our lives the way we are supposed to live, not living it how someone else wants us to live. 

Give yourself love.

Give yourself the love you deserve, every day even when times are tough. Make it a habit of loving yourself. The more you do it the easier it gets. It is so important to be there for you no matter how hard it is. Your life is worth it. YOU ARE WORTH IT! YOU ARE LOVEABLE!

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Manifesting Life with Positive Thoughts

Have you ever thought about your life and what you wanted out of it? What would you want from life? Or do you already live the life you want?

I have been learning how to manifest what I want in my life with my thoughts. It is no easy task and it takes time and patience. It does work and it does pay off. You can do the same with your life. Whatever you want to accomplish you can manifest it. If you want something in life, you can have it. 

jetski on the water

Choose what you want and commit to it

The first step is choosing what you want and committing to it. Take time to think about what it is you want because sometimes we want things out of ego. Doing things out of ego doesn’t really turn out well from what I have experienced. It will always bring a learning experience so if you do make an ego decision, it will be fine, just learn and grow.

Think about your future and where you want to be in 5 or 10 years. If you want to live a free and independent life, then what you chose should be in line with that. If you want to love yourself more, then it should be in line with self-love. 

When I decided to move to Costa Rica, it was a quick (4 months), but much thought out move. I knew in my soul I needed to live alone without roommates of any kind. I knew I couldn’t do this in the states because of how expensive it is. Also, my soul wanted to experience life abroad in a new culture. 

I had already quit my job. I was searching for a new job and nothing seemed to be what would work for me. I thought about being a live-in nanny, but I had heard stories about that really being a 24/7 thing. I definitely didn’t want that. The salary for jobs and the cost to live alone wasn’t adding up for me. I knew the cost of living and the payment in Costa Rica would be perfect. 

Manifest it in your thoughts and soul

Once I committed to making the move everything fell into place. I did some soul searching and dug deep into myself. During this process, I was sure that Costa Rica was the place for me. I could feel the self-love rising. I could feel a new me coming out and was loving it 

While I was searching for jobs, I let my soul speak to me. I sat quietly (internally) during interviews and felt what my soul was wanting. When I was at home with my then fiance, I sat quietly internally, feeling what was going on within me and around me. 

Manifesting our thoughts and souls requires stillness. While everything is moving and flowing you are above it all just watching what’s going on. This allows you to see areas of your life that need growth. Your soul knows exactly what you need… so manifest what it wants by letting life flow and listening.

How do we manifest with our thoughts?

We do this by feeling our souls. Let your soul speak into your thoughts. Allow yourself the calm and peace within to flow and move. Let all the thoughts go.

When thoughts like “how will I pay my bills?” or “how will I survive if I quit my job?” arise, just let them flow. They are legit thoughts. They have a place to be in your head, but they aren’t everything. We have to trust and let the universe do its thing. When we manifest what we truly want, it all works out. We manifest now what we want in the future. So, thoughts and internal feelings are key. 

Keep your thoughts positive and higher energy. Keep in the present moment. Keep giving yourself the self-love you need. BELIEVE AND INTERNALIZE that you are worth it and it is possible.

How it looks for me

A few months ago, I quit my secure and steady job. I am made the change with so many thoughts and concerns. I, however, knew my soul needed this. When my soul needs, something I allow it to be. There is something bigger coming.

I still don’t make enough money to live alone again. I have a roommate to help with the bills, but last week my soul said: “live alone!!” So, my roommate is finding a new place. 

My thoughts are “How will I pay for all my bills?” and “Am I ready for this?” 

I have not a damn clue. I do know that I am manifesting right now what will take place in the future. I am allowing the thoughts and questions to flow and I am living in the moment. I am giving my soul what it needs. Daily trips to the beach, working on the blog and coaching business, and my internal self

I lost a little independence

Since my roommate loves to help and is always here. I became a little lazy. I relied on him to get a glass of water or go to the store for eggs. I didn’t feel confident to go out alone. I always needed him or someone to go with me. 

I started realizing this is not me and nor did I like it. I really hated the feeling. I hated feeling needy and attached. I gained weight and just didn’t feel like my self 100%. 

Nina playing with a friend while I relax and enjoy the time alone.

So, this move to live alone is much needed because I know its the way to gain my independence back. Since I made the decision, I am already doing things on my own. I am already going to the beach solo and shopping solo. Slowly, the energy I once had is finding its way back to me. 

I never lost myself and for that I am thankful. Laziness is a downfall for me. I can learn and conquer this with manifesting a better future right now. 

If I can do it…. So can you!

Let the thoughts flow. Find your inner soul and listen to what it says. Make small changes over time and stay in the moment. The moment, right now, is where we manifest the future. 

Let me know what you think. Let me know what you do to manifest what you want in life. I would love to hear how you make this life YOURS!