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Self-love isn’t all roses and sunshine

Self-love is not always beautiful baths and mani/pedis. It isn’t always roses and sunshine. We take our selves on dates and get our nails done, but sometimes it’s about dressing up and showing up in all aspects of your life even when life is tough. 

Cloudy skies make for amazing love.

There are so many times where we are in the dumps because we lost our job or a family member died. It will be hard to love yourself. It will be hard to get out of bed and make life happen. 

When you are struggling because of a death, or depression, or any other tough situation, this is the most important time to show up for yourself. It is the best and most important time to love yourself. Not everyone can be there to helps us out of our funks, so we have to be there for us. We have to be there for ourselves because we have us all day every day forever, so give yourself the love you need.

Self-love is cooking yourself a good meal instead of eating fast food. 

Taking care of our bodies and making sure we are eating healthy meals is the best way to help us deal with whatever hardships we are dealing with. It gives us more power and energy to cry, scream, and feel the emotions we need to feel.

Self-love is getting out of bed even if we feel as though we have a boulder on our chests.

Getting out of bed is a huge step when we feel so down and upset. It is a huge accomplishment to wake up on time to show up for our lives. This can be a huge power struggle because when we are struggling we feel we need sleep. Our bodies use so much energy to deal with death or depression it is important to get sleep, but it is also just as important to get out of bed and do what we need.

Self-love is creating a life that you don’t need a break from.

Self-love is making choices in our lives that allow us to be free from drama and stress. It is about living the “vacation life” all the time. I don’t really mean living on vacation… What I am trying to say is that we need to live our best lives. Since I am not the best with my words on this topic I will use an example from my life. 

An example from my life would be living in Costa Rica. I live in paradise yet I am not on vacation all the time. I still go to work. I still make a living and I still hustle. I am not waiting for my next vacation to have a break. I have time during the week to take time for myself. I don’t work a stressful job that keeps being on my toes all the time. 

This can be done no matter where you live as long as you set your life up that way. Get rid of things and people that are no longer working for you.

Self-love is looking at your life honestly and moving forward.

Looking at your life honestly in all areas. When you are honest about your failures and disappointments and start to move forward is self-love. It is just so important to see our failures and loving ourselves whole-heartedly and making the best of it. That is how grow and love happens. When a friend makes a mistake, we forgive and move forward. We should do the same with ourselves. 

Self-love is being who you truly are meant to be.

We tend to look at other’s lives and want to model what they do and who they are. We should live our lives as our own. We should be who we truly are. If we are introverts, we should be that. Do our bests to live our lives the way we are supposed to live, not living it how someone else wants us to live. 

Give yourself love.

Give yourself the love you deserve, every day even when times are tough. Make it a habit of loving yourself. The more you do it the easier it gets. It is so important to be there for you no matter how hard it is. Your life is worth it. YOU ARE WORTH IT! YOU ARE LOVEABLE!

If you struggle with self-love, I am here to help. I have spots available for one-on-one coaching. I can support you in living a fearless full of self-love! Click for more information.

Manifesting Life with Positive Thoughts

Have you ever thought about your life and what you wanted out of it? What would you want from life? Or do you already live the life you want?

I have been learning how to manifest what I want in my life with my thoughts. It is no easy task and it takes time and patience. It does work and it does pay off. You can do the same with your life. Whatever you want to accomplish you can manifest it. If you want something in life, you can have it. 

jetski on the water

Choose what you want and commit to it

The first step is choosing what you want and committing to it. Take time to think about what it is you want because sometimes we want things out of ego. Doing things out of ego doesn’t really turn out well from what I have experienced. It will always bring a learning experience so if you do make an ego decision, it will be fine, just learn and grow.

Think about your future and where you want to be in 5 or 10 years. If you want to live a free and independent life, then what you chose should be in line with that. If you want to love yourself more, then it should be in line with self-love. 

When I decided to move to Costa Rica, it was a quick (4 months), but much thought out move. I knew in my soul I needed to live alone without roommates of any kind. I knew I couldn’t do this in the states because of how expensive it is. Also, my soul wanted to experience life abroad in a new culture. 

I had already quit my job. I was searching for a new job and nothing seemed to be what would work for me. I thought about being a live-in nanny, but I had heard stories about that really being a 24/7 thing. I definitely didn’t want that. The salary for jobs and the cost to live alone wasn’t adding up for me. I knew the cost of living and the payment in Costa Rica would be perfect. 

Manifest it in your thoughts and soul

Once I committed to making the move everything fell into place. I did some soul searching and dug deep into myself. During this process, I was sure that Costa Rica was the place for me. I could feel the self-love rising. I could feel a new me coming out and was loving it 

While I was searching for jobs, I let my soul speak to me. I sat quietly (internally) during interviews and felt what my soul was wanting. When I was at home with my then fiance, I sat quietly internally, feeling what was going on within me and around me. 

Manifesting our thoughts and souls requires stillness. While everything is moving and flowing you are above it all just watching what’s going on. This allows you to see areas of your life that need growth. Your soul knows exactly what you need… so manifest what it wants by letting life flow and listening.

How do we manifest with our thoughts?

We do this by feeling our souls. Let your soul speak into your thoughts. Allow yourself the calm and peace within to flow and move. Let all the thoughts go.

When thoughts like “how will I pay my bills?” or “how will I survive if I quit my job?” arise, just let them flow. They are legit thoughts. They have a place to be in your head, but they aren’t everything. We have to trust and let the universe do its thing. When we manifest what we truly want, it all works out. We manifest now what we want in the future. So, thoughts and internal feelings are key. 

Keep your thoughts positive and higher energy. Keep in the present moment. Keep giving yourself the self-love you need. BELIEVE AND INTERNALIZE that you are worth it and it is possible.

How it looks for me

A few months ago, I quit my secure and steady job. I am made the change with so many thoughts and concerns. I, however, knew my soul needed this. When my soul needs, something I allow it to be. There is something bigger coming.

I still don’t make enough money to live alone again. I have a roommate to help with the bills, but last week my soul said: “live alone!!” So, my roommate is finding a new place. 

My thoughts are “How will I pay for all my bills?” and “Am I ready for this?” 

I have not a damn clue. I do know that I am manifesting right now what will take place in the future. I am allowing the thoughts and questions to flow and I am living in the moment. I am giving my soul what it needs. Daily trips to the beach, working on the blog and coaching business, and my internal self

I lost a little independence

Since my roommate loves to help and is always here. I became a little lazy. I relied on him to get a glass of water or go to the store for eggs. I didn’t feel confident to go out alone. I always needed him or someone to go with me. 

I started realizing this is not me and nor did I like it. I really hated the feeling. I hated feeling needy and attached. I gained weight and just didn’t feel like my self 100%. 

Nina playing with a friend while I relax and enjoy the time alone.

So, this move to live alone is much needed because I know its the way to gain my independence back. Since I made the decision, I am already doing things on my own. I am already going to the beach solo and shopping solo. Slowly, the energy I once had is finding its way back to me. 

I never lost myself and for that I am thankful. Laziness is a downfall for me. I can learn and conquer this with manifesting a better future right now. 

If I can do it…. So can you!

Let the thoughts flow. Find your inner soul and listen to what it says. Make small changes over time and stay in the moment. The moment, right now, is where we manifest the future. 

Let me know what you think. Let me know what you do to manifest what you want in life. I would love to hear how you make this life YOURS!

Beautiful People and Core Values

I recently heard the song beautiful people by Ed Sheeran. It got me thinking about who I might become if I pursue my coaching business. I am good at helping people find their inner selves. I have seen friends’ and family member’s lives change because of the work I have done with them. I am confident. I am successful in coaching. I bring my core values into my life in every way.

The song insinuates that Beautiful people are people who pop champagne bottles or drive Lamborghinis. Beautiful people are people who sit in the front row of fashion shows or have prenups and broken homes. And that they don’t want to be beautiful people. They aren’t beautiful, it’s not who they are.

I was thinking, would that become me? Would I be the person popping champagne bottles and all glammed up with makeup and the finest of things? Who would I become when I make it in my new career? 

I love the song, but I think we are all beautiful people. Even without the extravagant lifestyle and fancy things, we are all beautiful people. So we already are beautiful people. 

It leads me to keep thinking about the questions I have and how it could benefit you.

Have you ever wanted to switch careers, but were afraid too because you weren’t sure who you’d become?

Have you ever been afraid to make more money because that could bring more fame, more opportunities, and more success?

As I begin my self-love coaching career, I have those fears. I see so many life coaches on Instagram that have these extravagant lifestyles. I have personally seen people change before my eyes because of money. 

It is scary to watch because I want to stay the same humble, thrifty, and the true person I am. It is normal to fear change and what could happen. We all have fears about the unknown. The truth is we will change. We will become someone new. 

We will change

We do have control over that person we become if we stay conscious and aware during the process. When we have our core values deeply ingrained in our being, we will be able to remember and see if who we are becoming is in-line with that. 

If your core values are to be humble and give back to society. If this value is deep within you, as you continue to grow more financially independent you will give back in the ways that align with your core standards. You will continue to do what you already do, just on a bigger scale. 

Some people put a high value on appearances and lifestyles, so when they gain more money they will do this on a bigger scale than they did before. That is okay because that is what they align with. Everyone has the need to look good and have a nice lifestyle, which is great, but we have control over how much we power we put on those needs. 

Our core values dictate how we live our lives no matter who successful or poor we are. As I work on my coaching program I am figuring out what my core values are so that I can stay true to them in my career and life.

Change is good

Change brings a new way of living. It reminds you that you are alive. We can truly live our best life as we grow into our true selves. The only way to achieve that is to grow and change. Learning what our core values are and how we can live our lives according to those values is the best way to know that we will become the person we truly are. There won’t be the fear that you will become someone different, that you don’t like if you know your core values deeply.

Stay tuned for my course in finding your core values. It is geared toward helping you determine what are the most important values in your life.

Taking Time for Yourself

Taking time for your self is very important to self-love and living a beautiful life. Life can be overwhelming and energetically over stimulating. Spending time alone can help you reboot your self energetically and emotionally. It is one of the main things I do regularly. 

There are so many ways to spend time alone. Even if you are around people daily it is possible. 

Take yourself on a date

This is my all-time favorite activity to do to give myself space. It could be anything. Doing something quick or simple helps you with everyday activities. It can help lower your stress and give you the much-needed love you need. 

You could go see a movie alone. Go for a hike at your nearby favorite park. Take a painting class. Go to the library and read some books. 

The sky is the limit for you what you to do. If you want something that could change your life in a way you never thought here are some suggestions These may take more time to plan, but they will definitely change your life and show you just how strong you are. 

You could be conquering a fear alone. Go skydiving by yourself. Travel to the country of your dreams for vacation. 

Use a sick day for work and get some alone time.

We all have days where we just want to spend the day at home without kids or spouses or roommates. These days are much needed “vacation” days. I have only done this once in my life, but it was highly effective for me at the time. 

Call out of work and binge-watch the series you’ve been wanting to see. Get something done you’ve been dying to get done, but don’t have time. Stay home and start writing the book or article you’ve always wanted to write. Maybe call a masseuse to come and give you that much-needed massage. I have used the time to get reiki done, which was amazing!

Again, the sky’s the limit.

Go on a tour of your city

Learn something new about the city or town you live in. It can really help you see things differently. You could do a cupcake tour or a haunted house tour. If you live in a big city, they have the hop on hop off buses and the segway tours you could experience. Check out Groupon as they have some amazing discounts and ideas for things to do in your town. 

I have done a cupcake tour, a wine tour, and a restaurant tour. All were fun and exciting. You find your new favorite places this way sometimes. You also get to spend time with yourself doing something you love. 

Do whatever you feel you need for yourself. 

Taking time for yourself won’t cure everything that’s happening in your life, but it will give you the space you need to love yourself through those times. There are many times I have learned something valuable about myself from these small dates that lead to a major breakthrough in some area of my life.

You only have you, so take care of yourself. Love yourself. You are worthy. You are special and strong. You can conquer all.

The Secret to Loving Yourself

I’ve been talking about loving yourself for a while now. It IS what weidergabe is about.  So, you probably wondering how to do that. While your relationship with yourself is the most important connection in your life, it’s easy to forget about nurturing it.

However, self-love and compassion are too important to neglect because they shape your experiences and relationships with others.

You can do this in a loving and caring way. It may not be easy, but it will be worth it.

Changing the Way You Think about Yourself

Maybe you’re hard on yourself or you’re so busy with external obligations that you rarely consider your personal priorities. Look within yourself to find the inner superwoman (or superman) within you!

These strategies will help you to think more highly of yourself:

  1. Accept yourself. Know that you are worthy of love and respect just the way you are this moment. Embrace yourself with all your strengths and weaknesses.

  2. Define your inner purpose. Invent your own definition of success. Ask yourself what a meaningful life means to you, even if that answer changes over time.

  3. Watch how you talk to yourself. How do you speak to yourself? Choose words that are encouraging and uplifting. Use your internal dialogue to build your confidence and manage your emotions.

  4. Forgive. Let go of the past so that you can move on. Learn from your mistakes. Take time to allow yourself to do something different in the future.  We wouldn’t be able to move forward without forgiving. And REMEMBER, forgiveness is for you, and only you.
  5. Avoid comparisons. Social media can make this hard. I know I struggle with it regularly. Compete with yourself. Try to do better than you did yesterday. You’ll accomplish more if you dare to be yourself.
  6. Think positive. Looking on the bright side and being able to laugh at yourself makes you even more loveable. It also helps you to manage stress and deal with difficult circumstances.

Changing the Way You Treat Yourself

Do your actions match your beliefs? You might say you love yourself, but your actions could be sending a different message.

Try these techniques to treat yourself kindlier:

  1. Practice self-care. Develop habits that keep your mind and body fit and strong. Go to bed early and exercise each day. Eat a balanced diet and watch your weight.
  2. Pick friends wisely. Surround yourself with family and friends who encourage and support you. Cultivate close relationships with others who share your goals. Engage in deep conversations where you can share your feelings and receive validation.
  3. Pursue your passions. Identify the activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Block out time each day for something you love, whether it’s a task related to your job or something you do in your leisure time.
  4. Set goals. Give yourself something to strive for. Working towards realistic and challenging goals builds your confidence as you add to your achievements.
  5. Maintain boundaries. Know your limits so you can define what behavior you consider acceptable. That may include physical boundaries such as needing your own space and psychological boundaries such as being entitled to your own feelings and opinions.

Advocate for yourself. Once you understand your needs, you can communicate them to others. You’ll grow more skillful as you practice being direct and tactful in letting someone know if they cross your boundaries.