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Self-Love: The Spiritual Aspect

Spiritual Aspect

We all have an inner soul that wants to grow and learn. This part is our spiritual side. There are many ways we can give ourselves love spiritually. For some, it is going to church and religion. Others, it is yoga or being a monk. Where ever your soul takes you will bring you closer to yourself. 

We need a Deep Connection

Part of ourselves need a deep connection with something, be it family, a God, or any other higher power. It is part of our life and it is just as important as the other aspects of ourselves. This deep connection we crave should never be ignored. It is part of us and requires the same love and appreciation as the mental, physical, and social aspects. 

Here’s a list of ways we can achieve this connection.

Spending Time in Nature

One of the reasons I decided to live near the beach was to be closer to nature. I knew that my soul needed to be away from the big city and closer to nature. Living by the beach gives me a deep connection to life. There are wild animals like monkeys and iguanas. There is fruit falling off trees. I can feel and touch the ocean and sand beneath my feet. 

Being in nature brings you so close to the foundation of life. Whether it is swimming in the ocean or taking a hike in the woods, you are connected with the simple, serene, and peace. It allows you to be at one with yourself and what’s around you. 

Reading a spiritually thoughtful book

There are a ton of books out there that can help you shift your mindset and think deeply about your life and self. I enjoy these books because they can be life-changing books. Most of the books on my booklist are life-changing or spiritually thoughtful books. Some of my favorites are by John Baines and Eckhart Tolle. 

I have become the person I am today because of the books I have read. They have opened my eyes to things I didn’t know before. It is always a go-to for me to dig deep and feel the spiritual connection I need.

If you don’t like to read, you can always listen to an audiobook as well. You can learn so much about life, love, happiness, and inner peace by reading books.

Attend a spiritual or self-improvement school or workshop

This is one of the greatest things you can do. They have different schools or workshops all over the world. I have attended a few. At IHP, I was able to learn the most about myself than any other place or book I read. I also attended The Landmark Forum. I learned a lot there too. It was eye-opening and inspiring. 

I know many people who have traveled to Bali or Thailand or other places and gained so much knowledge and power from the event or school. The feeling and understanding you have when you leave will stick with you forever. 

Search and find the best place for you. There may be many places you attend as you begin to grown. It is worth it.

For some people, going to church or the mosque or other religious institutions are the way they access their spiritual side.

Meditate or Do Yoga

Meditating and doing yoga can help you settle your mind. It can bring peace and silence. The silence and peace will help you see what’s truly going on inside your body and mind. I am not a fan of yoga, I do meditate. Meditation while taking a hot, salty, bubble bath is my favorite way to calm my mind.

There are different ways to meditate and many options for yoga. You can begin to understand your inner emotions and thoughts while manifesting the life you want. I love to manifest what I want with life in my meditations.

Importance of Boundaries

Importance of Boundaries

Boundaries are important to any aspect of life, especially self-love. We have to set boundaries to protect yourselves. We can show the most love to ourselves by saying “No!” to things that don’t suit us. It can be one of the hardest things to do when it comes to family and relationships. It is necessary because we need to do what is best for our well being. 

Boundaries tell the other person or people when to give us our space. It also shows them what we allow in our lives and what we don’t. It is important that people understand what we want and don’t want in our lives. By setting boundaries, we are showing ourselves the respect and love we deserve. We can expect others to show us respect if we don’t give it to ourselves. 

Respect Yourself

Respect is very important in any relationship especially with ourselves. Showing ourselves respect can raise our energy and improve our happiness. Giving ourselves respect will show others how they need to respect us. They will know what you do with yourself and that they can’t do the same with you.

So how do you respect yourself? Here are ways you can show yourself and other people respect!

Saying “No!”

Saying “No” is step one to showing yourself respect and other respect. No is the simplest way to tell someone you don’t like something or don’t want to do something. If you don’t like it when someone touches your arm a certain way, saying NO is simple, easy, and straight forward. If the person respects you, they will stop. If you don’t like when someone calls you a certain name and you say NO, they should understand that isn’t what you like. I don’t like it when people call me Ash. It isn’t my name so I politely tell people “No, it’s Ashley.” 

You can also show yourself respect by saying “No, I can’t go out with you tonight”, if you’re an introvert and need space for yourself. Or “No, I can’t go out because I don’t have money.” In all these instances (and many more) you are showing yourself and the others that you won’t spend money when you don’t have it, you will put yourself first, and whatever else you don’t like or want. If they respect you, they will leave it alone.

Walking away

Step two is walking away. If someone keeps doing something you don’t like and you have told them no many times, then it’s time to walk away. I know this may be hard especially if you really love and care about that person. Depending on what they did or said can depend on how long you stay away. I am all for giving second chances if the person’s actions weren’t severe. 

As I have spoken about before, I had to walk away from my mom for a few months. She and I have grown stronger and we both understand each other’s boundaries. As for an ex-boyfriend, I had in the past I walked away from them and never looked back. He never learned that I had boundaries and he couldn’t cross them. 

By walking away, you gain your power and self-love and they get a hard understanding of what you want. It doesn’t always change the other person because some people just don’t understand respect or boundaries. It is okay because you just walk away. If it is a serious boundary-crossing you may want to go to the police or local authorities to report them.

Integrity

This is the most important step to making sure the first step is taken seriously. Integrity is where you follow through on what you say you are doing to do. If you say No to someone, but then go back on your word, the person won’t take you seriously. Some people are very persistent and push and push, that is why walking away is step two. You may need to take drastic actions. 

Integrity is following through with your word. If you want people to take your word for the truth then do what you say. If I say “No, I can’t come I need alone time” (and they continue to push) but then you go with them, the person learns that you will change your mind after being pushed. 

We want our boundaries to be respected so we need to do what we say. It is important in every area of our lives.

The Revolving Boyfriend

I was having a conversation with a friend the other day. She lives in Peru and is having a hard time because everyone is in love and she is “alone”. She has a fear that she will never find that one person. I understand her fear because it is something that has come across my mind many times. 

She and I are both in our 30s. Most people we know are married and have a family already. Everywhere you look there are people, movies, and commercials telling you that you need to fulfill certain things to be considered successful in life. 

Over the last few years, I have come to terms with not getting married or finding that perfect person that I would spend my life with. It wasn’t easy to do because of so many people saying “you need kids, you need to be married, and you need a family of your own.” 

I mean there are coaches that help you find the love of your life that make millions of dollars finding people that special someone. For me, I want to help people find themselves and be whatever they are supposed to be. I think the world would be a better place if we focused on finding self-love instead of finding someone to love us. 

The Revolving Boyfriends

As I was figuring out myself, I coined the term “the revolving boyfriends”. It is when your life’s purpose is to better society and making a difference one boyfriend at a time. As women, we are life. We grow and create new life within our bodies to have babies. Why can’t we change the world by creating a different kind of life within our womb? 

Men don’t have a womb to create life, as women can. We create life then inspire the change through the men. So, if I am stuck with one man my entire life how can I make an impact on society like I am supposed to? your probably thinking of having guy friends, which is possible. But… sometimes you don’t get the intimacy you need by being “just friends”. So this brings me to… Well, revolving boyfriends!

A revolving boyfriend could be in my life (or yours) for a short time or a long time. It depends on what you and the man need to learn from the relationship. If you learn quickly then it may be a short relationship. It could be longer if there is deeper work to be done. 

It doesn’t mean you are less worthy

Just because you have revolving boyfriends doesn’t mean that you less of a woman. It doesn’t mean you are not special or worthy of love. It means you have a higher power that will change the world and make a difference in the lives of every man (or woman) you date. It doesn’t mean that you aren’t good enough or stable enough for that one love. It means you are worth more than just ONE LOVE! You have so much love you can spread it out and make a bigger impact on the world.

It doesn’t mean you are meant to fix them. We aren’t here to fix men (or women), we are here to grow more aware and conscious within ourselves. We are here to experience life in a new way. A way that isn’t told to us by society or commercials.

The world may say that you need that perfect man to be whole. I promise you there are more ways to feel whole than having the perfect man, marriage, or baby. Personally, I know this is true because I feel whole with or without a man. I live my best life and I live it with integrity, faith, and love. You can feel whole within yourself by being your real self. Feeling whole can come from volunteering or learning to love unconditionally. It can come from loving yourself so much that you follow your dreams even if they aren’t what society tells you is correct.

To change the world, we need to change the way we see the world.

The world is broken. It is full of greed, hate, fear, and anger. That is why we have so many wars and devastation. If you want to see the world be full of faith, love, and integrity, then we need to change the way we live it. 

This starts with seeing marriage, babies, and ourselves differently. That is why I am creating content that focuses on self-love and testing the boundaries with the way I live. 

We will all suffer if we chase after things that are not meant for us. I am not meant for getting married or having a child. I am meant for something BIGGER and more GRAND

It is okay if no one understands this except you. There are others out there like me and my friend that meant for the life of revolving boyfriends and manifesting a new way of living. 

Don’t be afraid… EMBRACE IT!