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Self-Love: The Spiritual Aspect

Spiritual Aspect

We all have an inner soul that wants to grow and learn. This part is our spiritual side. There are many ways we can give ourselves love spiritually. For some, it is going to church and religion. Others, it is yoga or being a monk. Where ever your soul takes you will bring you closer to yourself. 

We need a Deep Connection

Part of ourselves need a deep connection with something, be it family, a God, or any other higher power. It is part of our life and it is just as important as the other aspects of ourselves. This deep connection we crave should never be ignored. It is part of us and requires the same love and appreciation as the mental, physical, and social aspects. 

Here’s a list of ways we can achieve this connection.

Spending Time in Nature

One of the reasons I decided to live near the beach was to be closer to nature. I knew that my soul needed to be away from the big city and closer to nature. Living by the beach gives me a deep connection to life. There are wild animals like monkeys and iguanas. There is fruit falling off trees. I can feel and touch the ocean and sand beneath my feet. 

Being in nature brings you so close to the foundation of life. Whether it is swimming in the ocean or taking a hike in the woods, you are connected with the simple, serene, and peace. It allows you to be at one with yourself and what’s around you. 

Reading a spiritually thoughtful book

There are a ton of books out there that can help you shift your mindset and think deeply about your life and self. I enjoy these books because they can be life-changing books. Most of the books on my booklist are life-changing or spiritually thoughtful books. Some of my favorites are by John Baines and Eckhart Tolle. 

I have become the person I am today because of the books I have read. They have opened my eyes to things I didn’t know before. It is always a go-to for me to dig deep and feel the spiritual connection I need.

If you don’t like to read, you can always listen to an audiobook as well. You can learn so much about life, love, happiness, and inner peace by reading books.

Attend a spiritual or self-improvement school or workshop

This is one of the greatest things you can do. They have different schools or workshops all over the world. I have attended a few. At IHP, I was able to learn the most about myself than any other place or book I read. I also attended The Landmark Forum. I learned a lot there too. It was eye-opening and inspiring. 

I know many people who have traveled to Bali or Thailand or other places and gained so much knowledge and power from the event or school. The feeling and understanding you have when you leave will stick with you forever. 

Search and find the best place for you. There may be many places you attend as you begin to grown. It is worth it.

For some people, going to church or the mosque or other religious institutions are the way they access their spiritual side.

Meditate or Do Yoga

Meditating and doing yoga can help you settle your mind. It can bring peace and silence. The silence and peace will help you see what’s truly going on inside your body and mind. I am not a fan of yoga, I do meditate. Meditation while taking a hot, salty, bubble bath is my favorite way to calm my mind.

There are different ways to meditate and many options for yoga. You can begin to understand your inner emotions and thoughts while manifesting the life you want. I love to manifest what I want with life in my meditations.

7 Ways to Build Self-Confidence

I didn’t always have self confidence. For the majority of my life, I was a outgoing and appeared confident. However, that was not the case. Deep inside, I was crying for attention from myself. Instead of looking within and finding myself, I chose men and other things to focus my attention on. For years, i continued to neglect my true self. I ignored the problems I held deep within. Unless you were my close friend or relative, you never knew. After my divorce, I had hit rock bottom. I knew I needed to really find myself or I would have the same thing happen again. I hated how I felt. I hated feeling lonely, used, and betrayed. I started to do these 7 things. It was not a quick fix. It was something that took years of practice and determination to gain the self confidence I have now. Some were easier than others to achieve.

1. Take Time for Yourself

This can look different for different people. It could be taking that vacation you have been putting off for years. It could be as simple as taking a bath with candles. There are so many ways you can take time for yourself. At first for me, it was taking baths and going to the movies alone. As time went on the time was spent differently. During my college years, it was taking space from men. I only spent time with woman. I moved into an apartment with 3 other woman and really understood what the power of having girlfriends was. Within the last few years, it has been quitting my job and moving to a foreign country alone. Depending on where you are in your journey of self confidence will depend on what taking time for yourself looks like.

2. Set Yourself up to Succeed

When you succeed at something that isn’t easy to do, you learn what you are capable of. This is a major part of setting yourself up for success. Start small. If you are learning self confidence (in the beginning) you may not want to move abroad solo. This may be too big of a step for you to begin with. There is no way I would have been able to move abroad 10 years ago. I would have been frustrated and moved back home. Gradually increase the activities and situations you put yourself in. Try not to do too much as one time. Set small goals you are able to achieve. Or set a big goal with little steps to get there.

3. Exercise often

Exercise is the best way to increase endorphins and stay strong. It has helped me release energy and stay focused. I notice a huge different in my overall well being when I do not get a certain amount of exercise in a day. Running, swimming, or any other increase adrenaline activity can help you stay positive. It helps your body stay in shape as well. If you have trouble with this like I do, I suggest an exercise buddy to keep you motivated. My buddy is my dog. She needs to run so I run around the yard with her. The days I don’t do this with her, she eats things she isn’t supposed to. This helps both of us stay in shape and mentally in a good place.

4. Take Care of Your Hygiene

This may seem like it has nothing to do with self confidence. However, it does. This is a huge part of feeling good about yourself. If you aren’t washing your hair or brushing your teeth regularly, you tend to feel down and depressed. The first thing i do when i wake up is take a shower. There was a few days we didn’t have water, and I couldn’t do this. I had to push through the feelings of yuck and grime. It is so important to feel clean. It is a basic need so making sure you met that need is important. It’s the foundation of self confidence.

5. Dig Deep Within Yourself

This is probably the biggest, hardest, and most helpful thing I have done to gain self confidence. I took courses to help me discover some deep rooted issues from my childhood that kept my self confidence low. Some of which were the Landmark Forum, Justin Sterling’s Woman’s course, and attending the Institute for Hermetic Philosophy. Reading books was another way that helped me understand what self confidence looks like. All of these courses and books helped me understand what was stopping me from loving myself and not allowing myself to have better than what i was giving myself.

6. Act Positive

Acting positive is different than thinking positive because it allows you to put into action positivity. I started with doing one positive thing a day. It became a habit and now I do it more often. This could be doing that project that you have been putting off for 3 weeks. Open up your body more by sitting up straight and having better posture. Yoga or deep breathing exercises. Smile or laugh more often. Open up your love. Give compliments to people you might not have in the past. Allow yourself to love freely. All of these things and many more help with self confidence. For me, it was adjusting my posture, giving more love, and do projects i had been putting off.

7. Say No

Since I always wanted to be around people for fear of being alone, I never said no when I should have. Being able to tell people “No I can’t do that” without giving an in depth reason why and NOT FEELING BAD is one of the most self rewarding things you can do. I began to trust myself in ways I never knew i could when I started saying no to things that didn’t suit me. Just simply say NO. Justifying or feeling bad about saying no takes your power from you so you lose self confidence. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO SAY NO! Again, start with small things you want to say no too and move to bigger things. This takes practice as it is scary to do if you have never done it.