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Importance of Community

I have written about the sense of community and volunteering in the past. It really is important on a spiritual and mental level. I don’t know how people can live without a community surrounding them. I don’t know how I functioned for 6 months without the community of Brasilito. 

A Beach Clean Up with the Local Police

Community gives you a sense of belonging

When I lived in Brasilito before I had a huge sense of belonging. I had people I could go to for smoothies or support. I was always saying “Hola, como estas?” (Hi, how are you?) or “Buenas” (good morning). I knew everyone and everyone knew me even if it wasn’t a deep knowing. 

I felt like I belonged in this little town. I felt like I had a community there for me no matter what would happen. They could help me with anything I needed whether it be a smoothie date or company on the beach. Or just that pick me up “hello”. 

Having a town or village that surrounds you gives you so much more spiritually and mentally than most people realize. It gives you peace of mind knowing you have people to help you in need or people to go to with questions and concerns or just someone to say hi. It is something we all need and crave as a way of life.

Community builds love

I have so much love and appreciation for the little town I live in, but also for the world around me. I volunteer to teach English to someone in Jordan (in the Middle East). I have friends from all over the US and the world from my TEFL course

There are so much love and appreciation for different cultures and different ways of life. I am learning about other cultures in China and Jordan from teaching online. I am learning about the Spanish culture here in CR, but also abroad because of Open English. It is just amazing. 

I am consistently filled with love because of the openness and community of the many cultures that surround me. 

The building community can be far and near.

No matter where you are you can have a sense of community with others near and far. I have people that are close to me on a daily basis. I also have others that I know only through the computer. And the sense of community is the same. 

Yes, It is great to have people close to you to have for emergencies like taking care of your dog while you’re out of town. A friend of mine has been out of town for a month. She has had so much help and support while gone with her dog and her bills (most bills can’t be paid online here). My friend has expressed her gratitude and love of this little community we have here many times over the month. It is a wonderful experience. 

Nina and her New friend.

But… it can also be an online community. There is an online community of woman that I am apart of that is always there to answer questions and supports all women. It is based here in CR. They do community awareness events like beach clean-ups. They also support local businesses by offering discounts and some proceeds go to the local charities. I don’t know some of these women personally, but they are always there when someone needs support. Nina has even found best friends to play with, in our new community!

Go out and find your community

Go out and find your community, whether it be online or in-person. You will live a happy and connected life. Once you find that perfect community for you, you will have love and belonging. It is part of the self-love steps I’ve talked about before, mental and spiritual. 

Some communities may be geared toward physical and other aspects of self. Which is amazing as well. We need to fill our own selves up with what we need. 

SO GO OUT AND BE LOVE!

What am I not doing to make my blog better? And what it means for you.

One of the things I do with this blog is to be honest with my life. I do my best not to sugarcoat the experiences that I go through when sharing them with you. I want to be honest because honesty is key in this life. Being honest not only with you all but with myself too. I recently wrote a blog post with 27 questions for self-discovery (If you subscribe to my website you get this). As I was writing, I asked and answered those questions for myself, again. Some answers were the same as the past, and some changed. These questions led me to ask more questions like what can I do to make my blog better? What am I not doing to make my blog better?

I responded to the last question because I thought it was the most important. I was not listening to the advice that many other bloggers had given me in many ways. Here were the top 3…

1. There isn’t consistency between the blog and my social media. My color scheme and layouts are all over the place. It seems like a chaotic mess. I like so many styles it is hard to narrow it down to just one.

2. I don’t have a content marketing strategy. Well, I have a strategy. It is to just do what I feel I need to do. Which really isn’t the best strategy. I need a more concrete strategy in writing that I can follow and implement.

3. I don’t believe in myself or what I am doing. This one is the most difficult one for me. This is the part that is not easy for me to be honest about. This is the one that stops me in my tracks. Let me explain…

From my past posts, most of you know that I struggled with many situations as a child. These situations have made me the strong, loving, and courageous woman I am today. One the other hand, it has given me some doubts, insecurities, and fear. I know that I can inspire people with my writing and experiences. I have seen it happen with family and friends. I know that I can make an impact on the women and the world by overcoming my insecurities and sharing my strengths. If I didn’t think I could really do this I would not have continued to write for as long as I have. I would have given up long ago.

So why do I feel like I do not believe in myself or what I am doing?

I feel that I am good enough to be an influencer on this world. I feel that everyone has left me at some point in my life, which isn’t really true. They just weren’t there emotionally for me. This is something that has taken me a long time to understand and i am still understanding how this affects my life. It affects relationships, my work, and my self esteem, among other things. It’s not easy to overcome and it takes a lot of internal processing and understanding. There are many other people who feel the same because of things that have happened in their past. I know that if i work hard to transmute this into something bigger, it would be a life changer. I know I CAN DO THIS! It is just something I feel. And as i have learned over the years, not everything we feel is the truth.

How have I begun to overcome this?

I have taken personal development classes. I have read books. I attended IHP for 4 years. I have come a long way with understanding the feeling of not being enough. Opening my mind to different ways of living and thinking has been a huge part of this journey. I do this by asking myself questions and digging deep for the honest answer. Once I get to the answer, I do my best to find a new way of being with the issue. For my blog, I have been pushing myself to keep writing and putting the best energy I possibly can out into the world. Even when something tries to stop me, I remember that nothing worth living for is easy. I find a way to overcome it. When I switched the blog around I ran into problems (I still am running into problems), I dug deep to find the courage to make it happen despite the trouble. This helped me have confidence that I can learn and grow if I want it bad enough.

Nothing in this world comes easy. If even it looks easys when others do it, it’s not. They had some struggle (that no one saw) to get to where they are. Part of the blog is to share that struggle and to show you that even with the struggle there is hope and amazement on the other side of it.

What does this mean for you as a reader?

I do struggle with feeling not good enough. I seem to contradict myself with some posts. I am still learning and growing as a person. One day I may see a different point of view to something than I did the day before. I think that is why I don’t have consistency within my website and social media. I want you to know I am looking for a coach that could help me understand myself on a deeper level as well as help me get the blog to a more cohesive place. I am on a journey of self-discovery. It is not clear, cut, and dry. It is messy, difficult, and scary. As I begin to understand, aspects of my life will begin to be more harmonious and tranquil.

I hope that you as a reader becomes motivated, stronger, and inspired by the journey of my life. I wish that you are encouraged to reach your dreams, as I begin to reach mine. I am working on different ideas for courses, ebooks, and printables that can support you in your journey of life. (stay tuned) I love all my readers and followers. I am happy and thrilled to gain many more. Thank you for inspiring me to better myself and my life!