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Victim to Victor: The Choice is Yours

A few weeks ago, I wrote a blog about identifying victim mentality. Here is the second part… Victim to Victor!

We all have a choice on how we want to live our lives. We learn how to be victims or victors from our parents and close family when we are young. If you are around people who play the victim, you will play the victim yourself. Same goes for being the victor.

Even if we learned something as a child we can…

WE CAN choose HOW WE WANT TO LIVE!

The first step is choosing to live a different life. To go from victim to victor, we need to work and learn a new way of being.  It takes time and patience. It took me years to get to the victor mentality I now have. Don’t give up.

Here are a few ways to turn your life into one of a victor.

  1. Motivating yourself and others

Motivation is a huge positive mindset adjustment for people who play the victim. Motivating yourself and others is a positive and encouraging things to do. It requires a certain mindset to authentically motivate others. There are so many people that have a negative aspect when motivating others to achieve their goals or live the life they want. When you learn to positively motivate others it changes how you see life.

My way of motivating people now is completely different than it was 2 months ago or even 6 years ago. I am constantly learning new ways to motivate people in the best possible way. As I look back on how it has changed, I see how I play the victim less and less.

  1. Being impeccable with our values and promises

Being impeccable with our values and promises, we begn to distance ourselves from the victim mentality to the victor mentality. This happens because, in order to be impeccable with our values and promises, we have to own the mistakes me make. For me, being honest is a value that is important to me. If I find myself not being honest, I own up to that and not blame others, moving from victim to victor. I take control of my actions. Same with goes for breaking rules. If I break rules at my job, it is no one’s fault but mine. So when I become impeccable with myself, I own myself. There is no room to blame others.

It is difficult to do. It is worth doing being you gain so many other valuable traits that make the difficult well worth the effort. If you want more on this reading “The four agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz is perfect for you!

  1. Overcoming fears and obstacles with a positive and grateful mindset

Some look at fears with a negative mindset. This negativity creates a breeding ground for the victim mentality. When one is grateful for all obstacles they are able to see the greatness within themselves as well as others.  Allowing you to be the victor in many ways. I found this the quickest way to overcome the victim mentality. If these suggestions are difficult and daunting to you, this one is my favorite and most life-changing tool.

In the last 2 years, I have learned how being grateful and positive even in hard times can change my way of thinking in drastic ways. I am loving the energy and feelings when placed in certain situations now.  Try this for 3 months and see the transformation!

  1. Gaining new knowledge

Reading books, Ted Talks, or attending personal development events is a great way to open your mind to another way of being. Using what we learn in the books, Ted Talks, and events give us access to tools we can use to learn. Learning from our experiences and being open to a new way of living or seeing life can allow us to put ourselves in other’s shoes. Thus opening our minds to the victor mentality rather than staying the victim.

Search for books, Ted Talks, and events that are for personal development for the next 6 months. Practice the tools they give you and see the changes in your life.